how to control a woman

Here’s a Zen Seduction method that any guy can do to get
immunity from the cloying sadism of a hot bitch.

Yes, someone who looks that perfect has
a lot going inside her head. She, like any other girl, has
something she’s hiding behind the attitude. It could be a secret
pleasure, a hidden want, and a covert need that cannot be
assuaged. Her ego, too, has blown up like that because she
wanted it to protect something … a weakness.
Before you ask me where to line up to get a vaccine against
nasty bitchiness, let me tell you about girls who act this way
How to bust her attitude and establish your frame?
I’ll go one step further and teach you about women and
compliance. It’s not just about exterminating a bad attitude or
making her see the wrong in her ways… It’s all about

subliminally conditioning women to follow the flow of your
conversation, and become more submissive to someone who’s
got his mojo intact.
Interaction is all about controlling the frame and
ADJUSTING the frame according to signals that you
notice one by one if you know what to look for. Before that
girl called out my buddy for being weird, there were signals
hanging all over her body that should have alerted him to the
gaping hole that was his embarrassment if only he took
control of the situation.
Remember this. When you’ve just met a girl and she’s
showing signs of compliance, don’t let go of the frame. In
fact, it is recommended that you take in everything with a
coolness that will rival an icy lake until she’s under you
writhing and scratching your back. You just do NOT let up
until that time when you have her completely.
Because, if you assume too soon that the little goddess will
“take care of you” because you’ve been good to her so far and
you’re following her lead (like my friend did).

Lesson One: Take Control and Observe the Frame
She Wants You to Enter

Pay attention to her body language and facial expressions.
Does she smirk, glower, roll her eyes then laugh, furrow her
well-shaped brows, or cross her arms across her chest? These
are all hints of negative emotions. Usually, women anticipate
your reaction then gets frustrated when you fall right into the
nice cozy trap she set up.
Women’s idea of power play is strange, but there’s a pattern...
She thinks you like her, she gives you a chance to show her,
she gets bored with your compliance and she leaves…. but not
without proving her point first.
She wants to let you know who’s in charge. One platonic girl
pal once said “why do I always meet losers”? She’s a maneating
bitch too and a good case study for that trait. That’s the
point of the whole shebang that my friend was not able to
dodge. She thought he’s a loser and a creep for falling for it.
Do yourself a favor and don’t let the love fumes cover your
vision. Look out for clues. They’re everywhere; and you’ve
only got a few minutes to smoke the subtle hints of ‘attitude’
out before she bites your head off.


Lesson Two: Destroy Her Frame by Hitting the
Soft Spot
Bitchy vixens are girly girls who developed their egos. Make
no mistake of it; they’re the same as the other girls who go to
bars only after hours of preening in front of the mirror.
They picked out their outfits a long time ago, maybe after a
month or so of shopping. If that doesn’t give you a clue to
what a bitch’s weakness is, you’re about to find out.
Once she starts furrowing her brows, tell her the wrinkles are
showing through her wrinkles. When she rolls her eyes, ask
her if her mascara is bothering her. Stay calm, move out and
hit some more.
A woman’s looks take precedence over the way she acts when
interacting in a club. As long as she thinks she looks
impeccable and superior in beauty, she thinks she can get
away with her behavior. It’s not personal; she doesn’t have
anything against you. It’s just a warped power boost she plays
to remind her that guys go ga-ga over her looks.
Bust it. Mercilessly. Here’s another way. Attack her age.

I approached a group of girls one time and focused on the
most likable girl (the softer, feminine one who was smiling),
but I really had my eye on the most gorgeous girl in the group.
This girl did a look over and ignored me. So I went for that
line of attack. I introduced myself formally and asked if I can
join them. Then I said, “I figured you’re the chaperone of
these pretty girls because you look the oldest. It must be
because you don’t smile.”
It cracked the whole group up, but several emotions flitted
across that girl’s face in a split second. Let me tick them off
one by one: shock, consternation, realization, sheepishness
and … amazingly… attraction. She gave me that crooked
smile and a much ‘softer’ look. A few minutes later, when it
was time for me to leave, she gave me her number.

Lesson Three: The Sincere Compliment
There’s an action that followed the ‘Repel’ in the lesson 2
story.
It’s this: I gave her a wink and an answering smile right after
she smiled. This is what I call the ‘Attract’ in this situation.
When I was about to leave and she handed over her card, she
said “call me if you want”.

I looked in her eyes, replied “You’re very beautiful when you
smile. You should do it more often”.
This system has an Attract-Repel structure feel to it, which
may not be new to you. However, Attract-Repel is something
that you might have practiced on women who weren’t set on
disliking you.
Let me tell you this - Attract-Repel is a winning strategy that
works especially well on this type of females.
In fact, it’s even easier to do this on someone who’s
aggressively trying to push you away than on someone who’s
passive about you.
Like a playground swing; if it’s already in motion and has
gained momentum, pushing and pulling it will be much easier
to do.
Remember this when dealing with a woman who is
"misbehaving". †

beating approach anxiety

Step One - Mental Reframes:
The first part of beating approach anxiety is how you think about approaching.
Most guys have one of a few different thoughts:
1. “I don’t know what to say, so I can’t approach.”
2. “She’s so hot; I hope I don’t mess this up.”
3. “That’s scary.”
4. “What if she rejects me?”
5. “She won’t like me because I’m too fat, short, ugly…”


None of these thoughts are productive.
The first mental reframe is that approaching can only ever be one of two things.
It’s either going to be boring or fun. That’s it. If you approach a group and they
reject you, it’s boring and you can leave.
If at first it’s going really well and then you stall out, it’s boring and you can leave.
If it goes well, it’s fun. That’s it. You are under no obligation to stay in a
conversation if you’re not having fun, no matter how hot the girl is.
The next mental reframe relates to the concept of resistance. When most guys
get AA they try to push their way out of it. I used to berate myself into
approaching consistently. Now this can work, but it’s an unhealthy and wholly
time consuming process. Plus, there are some nights where you won’t be able to
get yourself over the hump.
The problem is that by resisting the AA you actually make it stronger. In Eastern
philosophy there is a phrase, “That which you resist persists.” That means that
the more you fight against something the stronger it becomes.
So instead of getting annoyed or angry by the fact that you have approach
anxiety, accept it. Think to yourself “Yep I have approach anxiety”. By not
fighting the anxiety, you strip it of a lot of its power.
Another mental reframe I want to talk about involves focus. Focus is simply
where your attention is directed. There are two separate and distinct ways to use
focus to overcome approach anxiety.
The first way to use focus to lessen AA comes into play when you first see a girl
you’re attracted to. If you’re like most guys, then you immediately start thinking
of reasons why she wouldn’t like you or you can’t approach her.

Instead, you want to start focusing on why you want to approach her. You should
think to yourself how amazing it would be to hold her against you, how sweet her
lips will taste, the noises she’ll make as you’re taking her from behind.
Think of anything that will keep the focus on why you want her and have to
approach, as opposed to building a case for why it’s a waste of time and she
won’t like you. This will also help you be in a more sexualized state when you
approach, which will sub-communicate itself through things like bedroom eyes
and voice.
The second way to use focus to lessen anxiety is through shifting your focus
outward. Maybe you’ve heard the term “stuck in your head”. If not, it refers to the
process of over-thinking and analyzing things when you should be taking action.
Being stuck in your head can happen for a variety of reasons, approach anxiety
being one of them.
So when you’re stuck in your head it can be helpful to simply shift your focus
externally by looking at ANY inanimate object and really allowing yourself to
become fixated by it. It can be a chair, a bench, a tree, whatever. I know it
sounds a little woo-woo and new-age, but allow yourself to drink it all in.
Think about what it would feel like to be that object, how it relates to the rest of
the environment etc… If you can let yourself become amused by it or, if not by it,
by the ridiculous amount of effort and time that went into making and getting that
object where it is, you’ll notice that you’re forced out of your head because your
thoughts stopped being about yourself and approaching. Thus, the AA
disappeared. The key with this technique is to approach immediately after
focusing on the inanimate object.
Add an extra degree of difficulty by approaching while talking about the object.
Before we move out of the realm of the mental and into the more tactical, I want
to introduce the concept of the light switch. What I mean by this is that I view my
desire to approach a girl as if it’s a light switch. That means if I see a girl I am
attracted to and my brain says “yes she’s hot” then I approach. If it doesn’t then I
don’t.
Now this simplifies everything because it boils it down to a yes/no decision on
your part. No more humming and hawing about whether or not she’s attractive
enough or if the moment is right. Yes = approach. No = forget about her and
move on. You want to train yourself on this process so that when you approach
you don’t blurt out “you’re very pretty”.

You’ll get used to approaching women as soon as you make the decision you
want to.
This establishes a habit and, much like working out, once you’ve done this all the
time for 6 weeks or so, it will seem weird to not approach.
Ok onto the tactics for beating AA.
The first tactical way to beat approach anxiety is by doing warm up approaches.

This is a great way to get past the fear of approaching, because it takes away a
huge amount of outcome dependence. Since you know that you won’t be trying
to pick up the girls, it takes all of the pressure off approaching. It’s also fast, as
you can usually do all three of these warm up approaches on your way to
wherever you’re going to be meeting women.
The more comfortable you are in your environment, the less approach anxiety
you will have. So one of the best things you can do to work on your approach
anxiety is make a list of places you want to go to meet girls. These can be bars,
clubs, coffee shops, wherever.
They should be places that have the types of girls you want to meet, and that
ideally you like hanging out at. You can even take a night and get used to hanging
out at these places. You can talk to the staff, watch the girls get hit on, but focus
on getting comfortable in that environment. That way, the next time you go in you
won’t have to worry about adjusting to the environment in addition to worrying
about approaching.
Deep breathing is another tool for fighting approach anxiety in the moment. As
soon as you feel yourself getting nervous, take two or three deep breaths where
you hold before you exhale.
Physiologically when you are having approach anxiety your body is tensing up.
As adrenaline is released, your body starts to tighten up and your breathing goes
shallow. By taking a few deep breaths, you stop that process which should relax
you a decent amount.
It’s very important that as soon as you see a group or a girl you want to
approach, you start walking. The first step is often the most difficult, so make
sure to get moving as quickly as you can.

be sure that you actually walk up to the girl. Some students have been
known to make abrupt U-turns or keep walking past them. The idea is to put
pressure on yourself by walking over there. It’s a lot harder to approach from
across the room than it is from right there.
Lastly, I want to talk about high social pressure situations. These are great for
getting rid of approach anxiety. I used to have a rule at boot camp, that as soon
as I walked into a venue, I would approach the most difficult seeming group.
The reason I did that was twofold. First, exposing yourself to that much social
pressure always eases anxiety. Once you walk up to a group of two “9”s and five
guys seated in a booth in the back of a crowded club, the two girls at the bar
don’t seem as scary.
Secondly, the more difficult the approach, the greater the chance of a blowout
and nothing is better for getting over approach anxiety than getting blown out.
Think about it like this, a blowout is the worst thing that can happen when you
approach a group.
Not only do they not want to have sex with you, they don’t even want to talk to
you! But guess what? When you get blown out, you don’t bleed, you don’t get any
broken bones, and you can still breathe. The great thing about getting blown out
is that you’ve seen the worst it can get, and you survived it. And as a very good
friend of mine once told me, fear plus surviving that fear, equals confidence.
Ok, so let’s talk about how to apply this information. All of these ideas are
designed to be used out in the real world. I’m not a big believer in any tactics to
deal with approach anxiety that can’t be used when you’re out in the real world
approaching.
So the real first step is getting out of the house and finding women you want to
approach. Once you want to approach, but are having approach anxiety:
Apply one or more mental reframes. Remind yourself that approaching can only
ever be fun or boring. Ask yourself the empowering question: “How can I make
this more fun?” Remember to accept the feeling of approach anxiety rather than
resisting it. Focus on what you want to happen, not what could go wrong.
Take some form of action at the same time. It’s no good to just sit there mentally
reframing, you have to get your body involved in the process as well. So while
you’re mentally reframing things, you should be walking towards girls you want
to talk to, complimenting 3 different girls or groups to warm up, and taking deep
breaths.

So now that we’ve dealt with approach anxiety, we can move on to sexual
anxiety.
Sexual anxiety is anxiety associated with sexual situations. This can come from
your upbringing, inexperience with women and sex, religious views, your beliefs
about women, and even internal success barriers. This anxiety can manifest
itself in a variety of ways.
By far the most common way is escalation anxiety. Guys with SA can’t escalate
the interaction verbally or physically. Oftentimes they get stuck in the dreaded
“friend zone”.
Another way that SA comes up is through excuse making and rationalizations.
This is where guys will say things like “I could have pulled, but I was tired”, “I
don’t really wanna have sex with these girls; I just like the pickup”. Guys will also
rationalize SA. They’ll say things like “I just didn’t like her” or “She had weird
toes”. SA can even cause impotence for some people, based on the stress of
feeling like you will be judged sexually.

seduce women with this direct, can't miss tip

elements of the direct approach

 The direct approach relies on:
1. Opening your statement of intent. You are speaking your truth right out of your chute.
2. Can be used anytime, anywhere.
3. Delivery is a "matter of fact". You can say the most powerful things if you deliver them calmly.
A few more elements:
*can include compliment
*Pre-openers are not necessary but you can use the formal 'Hi' or 'Excuse me'.
*can use 'it just that...'
EXAMPLES
"Forgive me for interrupting... I can see you are working( reading/writing etc.) but you are just so (PAUSE)
absolutely(PAUSE) breathtaking, I had to say a "hi" before i go on with the rest of my day. I am dick.."
Two VITAL PIECES
*You pace her ongoing situation verbally.: "I can see you are reading/writing/eating". This shows that you are aware, considerate and safe.
*You include a false time constraint: " I had to say hi before i go on with the rest of my day." This shoes that you are going to leave soon. Subconsciously, the girl falls into a more relaxed and a comfortable state. The advantage here is that you stand more neutral and less prone to rejection.
A note on Pausing:
The pausing in the sentence is important. It puts you in a better control; it sets up your expectancy and curiosity and lowers the resistance. She's hanging on your words waiting to hear what you are going to say next: remember ' Response Potential'.
The direct approach more than any other depends upon the the pacing of your speech and on the tonality.
ONE MORE EXAMPLE:
"Hi..it's just that i noticed you here and i realized that if i didn't say something, I'd never find a way to know what you are like. I am dick..."

mastering seduction

“WHY MOST PICK-UP ARTISTS STRUGGLE”

The lack of a few fundamental

principles causes most guys to

struggle or waste their

valuable practice time.

I am not going to talk about all of

these issues here because I’m

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who would make great

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I know from my past experience that I can make a heavy difference in people’s

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getting better with women.

NOT KNOWING THESE PRINCIPLES is

the reason that over 95% of guys who

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study, and practice religiously.

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