the secret of seducing a girl: The Most Powerful Word In A Smart Dater's Vocabula...

the secret of seducing a girl: The Most Powerful Word In A Smart Dater's Vocabula...: Today I am going to teach you the most powerful word in a Smart Dater's vocabulary. It's not "flirting". It's not "teasing". It's not "l...

The Most Powerful Word In A Smart Dater's Vocabulary

Today I am going to teach you the most powerful word in a Smart Dater's vocabulary.
It's not "flirting".
It's not "teasing".
It's not "love".
It's definitely not "seduction".
It's not even "attraction".
It's..."next"!
As I've stressed in the past, the greatest power you can have in a relationship is the power to leave at any time. Once you realize that nobody is forcing you to be in the relationship and that you do not "need" the other person in order to survive, you'll demand respect for yourself and set clear boundaries about what you will and will not tolerate, which ironically will raise your girlfriend's romantic respect for you and give you more power in the relationship.
I know it's hard to say "next" when you're very much in love with a woman. You may want to tolerate her bad behavior even though it is driving you crazy. You don't want to do anything that might lead to a breakup. Being with your girlfriend feels great, and you don't want to risk losing her.
But guess what? Unless you're willing to take that risk, your girlfriend will keep taking you for granted and her romantic respect for you will continue to drop - until she finally gets tired and finds herself another man.
Is that what you want?
Think about this one really hard!

One Way To Act Like An Alpha Male

Here's one way you can start acting like an alpha male to your peers: Help them deal with their common enemy.
For example, let's say you're doing a group project and there's a big bitch in the group who likes to boss everyone around. Everybody hates her and nobody dares to do anything because she has such a strong personality.
Your quickest way to power within the group is by busting this bitch in front of everyone. Take care of her for your peers, and before you know it everybody in group will see you as their leader and protector. You can then use your new boys to help build you social proof with women. Invite them out when you go out and act like a leader. Women will see it and think "wow" subconsciously.
Here's a good analogy. Be the alpha wolf and take care of your pack, and the female wolves will be all over you!

How To Get Over Rejection

Next time you are rejected by a woman, remember this: the more you fail now, the more likely you will succeed in the future.
In life, you'll always lose some and win some. But the more you lose, the more experience you'll gain, which mean the less likely you are going to repeat the same mistakes again. (Unless don't learn from your mistakes at all, in which case you're screwed until you start learning!).
No matter how badly you fail, as long as you're learning SOMETHING, then you're getting more than what you would have gotten had you not done anything at all.
As the old saying goes, "A failure is someone who fails once, a successful person is someone who has failed many times!"

How To Practice Smart Dating Techniques Effectively

Here's an important concept to remember when you're out practicing your dating skills:
Focus on your actions, not on the results.
For example, instead of worrying about how many phone numbers you've gotten so far, worry about how many women you've asked.
And instead of worrying about how many women reacted to your flirting positively, focus on how many women you've approached and the PROCESS of flirting with these women.
Finally, instead of worrying about getting a girlfriend or finding your soul mate, focus on meeting as many new friends - male and female - as possible. Expand your social circle, and love will come.
These attitude adjustments may seem tiny and insignificant, but they will make your experiences a lot more fun and enjoyable in the long run!

A Quick Way To Get Women To Notice You

I have a question for you:
How passionate are you?
By passionate, I don't mean being romantically passionate.
What I mean is...do you have an area of life that you're REALLY passionate about?
Women are naturally attracted to men with "purpose".
It doesn't matter what you are passionate about, as long as you are passionate about SOMETHING. (Except video games and computer programming, of course...) What matters the most is that you're willing to be PASSIONATE about it and to EXCEL at it.
Here's a good example. I have a hippie friend who's full of bullsh**. He's very passionate about bringing an end to capitalism and turning the world into a "better place" for everyone to live in. This guy has like NO logic at all and anyone with a decent education should be able to see through his conspiracy theories in a minute.
But guess what? He still pulls in a lot of women for one-night stands. Eventually the women will see he's moretalk than action, but they always think he's the next Karl Marx and fall hard for him when they first meet him.To women, he has every characteristic of a man with purpose. He fits into the "rebel" archetype perfectly.
Of course, I am not suggesting you to be full of bullsh**. What I want you to do is to find your OWN passion and be VOCAL about it.
If you like music, start a band.
If you like magic, do stage shows.
And most important of all, actually have SUBSTANCE behind all that talk. This will make women want to STAY with you in a relationship after you have attracted them.
Focus on a few key areas of your life, and in a few months you'll see more women drawn towards you!

Smart Dating Probabilities

Here's a little bit of "Smart Dating Probabilities" that I thought I would share with you.
Probability Theorem #1: Your Success Rate Is Always 50% If You Approach A Woman
According to "Smart Dating Probabilities", when you approach a woman, you always have a fifty percent of getting her.
Why? Because you "either get her or you don't."

Yes, it's a silly way of looking at it - but it helps your attitude.
Probability Theorem #2: Your Success Rate Is Always 0% If You Don't Approach
On the other hand, if you don't approach a woman at all, then your success rate will be zero.
So would you rather approach a woman and have a at least fifty percent of winning, or would you rather not approach her and "lose" a hundred percent for sure?
Probability Theorem #3: Just Assume The Rules Work 100%
The third "Smart Dating Probability Theorum" is that you should "always" assume the "Smart Dating Rules" work a hundred percent.
Yes, I know the world isn't black and white and you should not reduce everything to absolutes. But you know what? As a "Smart Dater", you should focus on what works NINETY PERCENT of the time rather what works "all" the time, because no matter how hard you try, NOTHING is going to work "a hundred percent of the time."
Instead of worrying about the "exceptional cases", focus no what's doing right MOST of the time. I guarantee you will see a LOT more success than guys who become paralyzed because they worry too much about the "last few percents."

Are There Not Enough Women To Go Around?

A funny excuse that I hear all the time from my readers is that they can't get women because "there aren't enough women to go around."
According to these guys, it is impossible to get a girlfriend or get laid because all the good girls or attractive women are already "all taken".
That is garbage. Unless you live in a town with a population of a few dozen people, there'll always be women for you to meet. In fact, there should be more women than you can handle.
Here's a little lesson...
A common trait that most successful people have is that they believe there is an abundance of resources in this world.
In business, the most successful entrepreneurs know there’s more money to be made than anyone could possiblymake in a lifetime. On the contrary, the stingy merchant-class businessmen believe there’s a limited supply of wealth on this planet…and that to become richer, they must “screw over” other people. These guys are the guys who worry so much about scouring pennies off the streets that they miss the hundred dollar bills floating in the air.

In dating, guys who believe there is a “limited” supply of women in their town will never become truly successful with women.
The truth is…there are enough women to go around for EVERYONE. Just because you’ve crashed and burned with one girl does not mean you’re never going to meet the love of your life. There are over 3,200,000,000 women on this earth as we speak. Let’s say only 1 in a million is compatible with you, there’ll still be 3200 women for you to choose from. (The ratio is much higher than 1 in a million, of course.)
I guarantee you that if you open your heart, you will find an abundance of women who are compatible with you in a long-term relationship. And if you’re just after sex, I also promise you there’ll be an endless supply of women who want to be with you

What If You're Overwhelmed By Her Beauty?

Here are three techniques you can use to keep yourself under control when you feel you're overwhelmed by a woman's beauty.
1) Pick Out A Flaw
The first technique you can use is to pick out a flaw on a woman's face or body when you talk to her. For example, if her nose has a funny shape, then try to "find that funny" and think about it as you chat with her.
2) Use The Old Boxers Technique

The second technique you can use is to imagine the
woman in a pair of old, funky looking underwear. This technique is actually used by actors to overcome their stage fright when they audition for roles in movies. I have no idea why it works for many people - it just does. See if it works for you too.
3) Hang Around Beautiful Women More Often
The last technique is a long-term technique. You should try to befriend beautiful women and just hang around them until you're comfortable hanging around or having frequent physical contact with women. Don't worry about hitting on them or getting into their pants. You're just using them to train yourself. In time, you will be "used" to having beautiful women around you and when you meet a new woman who's considered beautiful by most guys, you won't be scared to approach her anymore.

Be Detached From the Result. Stop caring about whether The Girl Approves You or Not.

Guys who are naturals at attracting women are detached from the
outcome. Imagine approaching a woman and being turned down; or
even worse; imagine having this done in front of your friends? How
would you feel?
For most guys nothing can be more disastrous than getting rejected.
Nevertheless, guys who are masters at attracting women understand
that rejection doesn’t amount to anything.
It is just a part and parcel of the game, and they aren’t concerned
about the woman’s reaction, because all they care about is having fun
and nothing else.

Take two examples here for instance-
Scenario #1
Guy- “Hey! How are you doing?”
Girl- “Buzz off! Jerk.”
Guy- “Oh… I am Sorry” (And Leaves).
Scenario #2
Guy- “Hey! How are you doing?”
Girl- “Buzz off! Jerk.”
Guy- “oooh! You seem to be having a bad day…My maa told me to
be careful around angry chicks…I am scared. Bye Bye.”
Girl- Stands there surprised with her jaw dropped.
Now who do you think had more fun? No prizes for guessing here,
because when you are outcome independent, you won’t really care
about the girl’s response. All you will care about is how to make the
best out of every interaction

Don't Seek Approval or Validation From the Girl...

The concept of seeking validation revolves around the story that is
going on in your head, and it all comes down to how you feel about
yourself.

Guys who are approval seekers normally have low self-esteem, and
have a habit of giving their power away in order to seek acceptance
or validation from the female; which means they fear losing the girl
even before the conversation has started…
Therefore, they do anything and everything to prevent possible
rejection.
This is the sort of a guy, who isn’t sure whether his actions are right or
not, and this makes him seek validation from the girl, He does this just
to be sure that he is doing the right thing.
In a nutshell, here is what goes on in an approval seekers mind at the
sight of an attractive female….
I am strongly interested in her
↓
Oh my god she is so good looking
↓
I hope everything goes fine.
This is where he ends up being a TRY-HARD and gives his power
away just to gain some approval.
So what effect does this have on the female? Well, here is what goes
on in her mind…

WOW…This guy sure is trying hard to keep my attention…
↓
On top of that, he is boring.
↓
I wonder when this night would end.
The moment a girl realizes that you are seeking her approval; she
would be turned off within seconds.
Always remember that attraction isn’t something she has control
over. Seeking approval is a strong attraction killer, and she would
never show any real interest in you as long as you seek her approval.

Stop Trying To Please Or Impress The Girl...

A perfect example of an every day loser is the guy who kisses up to a
girl just to get her attention. Don’t treat a girl as if you have just met
your future girlfriend or wife.
If you subconsciously find yourself saying the things you should not
be saying, or doing the things you should not be doing, then you are
only trying to hide an inner belief of lack or weakness.
In order to cover up for your inner lack, you try to impress or please
the girl.
The best way to impress the girl is actually not to impress her at all,
because she won’t be impressed as long as you make obvious efforts
to get her attention. The moment you let go of the need or desire to
please her, is the point where she would automatically be impressed.
Why?
Well, because she is used to seeing guys make constant efforts to
impress her all the time.
Consider these two scenarios-

Situation #1
Guy- “Hey how are you doing? Can I buy you a Drink?”
Girl- “I am doing fine. No Thanks.”
Guy- (No words).
Situation #2
Guy- “Hey! Do you know what’s the best drink they offer here?”
Girl- “Yeh, its xyz drink.”
Guy- “Cool! So are you going to buy me one?”
See the difference?
The female will obviously show a stronger emotional response to
situation number 2, only because the approach wasn’t obvious, and
the guy wasn’t trying to impress her.
Most women are accustomed to seeing guys impress them; therefore,
whenever they come across something, which is not so obvious, it
instantly catches their attention.

Controlling your emotions

You must make sure that you don't tell the girl how you feel about her
too early on, and you should not be the first one to say, “I love you”.
The reason being, is that the moment you share your true feelings too
early in the relationship, she tends to go through this strange process
where she feels like she has conquered you, and thinks- “Ok I have
him...Now what?”
So the tension and attraction you have built by demonstrating all the
traits of a high value male get killed.
Now you aren't too hard to get anymore; and since we have already
discussed that females can’t control who they are or aren’t attracted
to, they will not be able to feel attracted towards you after they know
you are into them.

The only way to deal with this is to keep them confused and insecure;
which means you must never tell a female whether you are into her or
not into her.
Therefore, as long as she has to guess what's going on in your mind
the attraction will always be present. We will discuss this in further
details in the coming articles.

The Most Vital Concept You Must Master If You Want To Succeed With Women...

The single most important and absolutely critical concept you must
understand in order to be successful with women is “ATTRACTION”.
Unless you understand how attraction works, there is absolutely no
way you will ever be able to succeed with women and dating. There
are no exceptions to this rule.
Unlike men, women tend to act based on the way they feel, which
means they make decisions based on emotions and not generally
logic. They see something, get a feeling and act on that feeling.
Since it’s all based on feelings they basically can't control who they
are attracted to and who they aren't attracted to. Attraction is basically
a subconscious response women have towards certain behaviors
displayed by men.
Therefore, in order to trigger attraction you need to inculcate these
behaviors in your personality.
However, before we get to the dynamics of it, let me state a couple of
facts first.

1- Women do not control who they ARE attracted to.
2- Women do not control who they are NOT attracted to.
This basically means attraction happens at an unconscious level and
women cannot control it.
Basics of Attraction-
Now let me show you what attraction really is for women. Women get
attracted to…
1- Someone they can't have.
2- Someone somebody else has.
3- A guy who is wanted by other girls.
4- A man who does not do what he is expected to do, which
means BEING UNPREDICTIBLE.
5- Someone who has high value.
1- Someone they can't have-
Women are naturally attracted to guys they can't easily have. It's
pretty much like the concept of free stuff...We never value anything
which is available for free yet we attach massive value to something
which comes with a price tag.
Another example of this can be seen in the business world. Here is a
marketing trick a lot of businesses use...A man was looking at TV sets
in a showroom. He was not too keen on buying anything and was just
looking around until a set caught his eye.

2- Someone Somebody Else Has-
The same concept applies here as well. If a man is engaged, has a
girl friend or is married to someone else, it automatically makes him
wanted.
Attraction tends to intensify when the man is hard to get. When he is
already taken by someone else…It makes him even more desirable.
3- A Guy Who is Wanted By Other Girls-
This is a big one...In order to describe this let me use another good
example:
Picture this...
You are walking down the street and you see a big crowd...It suddenly
catches your attention and you get curious to know what's going on.
You go closer and realize everyone is looking at a box. Now you don't
see anything special about this box because it looks just like any
other ordinary box.
But would you just walk away? No, instead you stand there to find out
what is so special about this box and wonder, “Why is everyone
looking at it?”
Similarly, if a guy is surrounded by lots of women he will naturally
attract more women because every female would feel there must be
something special and unique about this guy due to which he is
surrounded by all these females.

Naturally, they would get curious too and be willing to know more
about you.
4- A Man Who Does Not Do What He is Expected To Do, Which
Means BEING UNPREDICTIBLEUnpredictability
is known to be the fastest way to trigger instant
attraction with women.
Many guys approach women in a very obvious and predictable way.
They make their intentions so obvious that the woman can’t help but
feel repulsion towards them.
Women are quick to scan the male body language and within
seconds, they form a judgment regarding whether they would like to
carry on the interaction with a certain male or not.
As you know, attractive women are used to being approached by
regular guys, and they rarely find a guy who is different than the
average crowd.
Women expect men to react in a certain way…For example a
beautiful woman who spends a lot of time in front of the mirror trying
to look good always expects men to show attention regardless of
where she is. She expects a certain type of reaction and is used to
getting that reaction from all men.
This is the reason why when they are hit with something unique and
unpredictable it triggers instant attraction.

Consider being in conversation with a beautiful woman and saying- “I
really like you…You are so pretty and have a great personality. Would
you date me?”
Or
“I like you but I am not sure if we would get along. I mean…I don’t
think you can handle me.”
Which line do you think will get her more curious? Well there are no
prizes for guessing here, because obviously the second line is more
powerful and will make her brain fire instantly.
She would think… “Wait a minute… This guy is telling me I can’t
handle him?
Does this mean I am not good enough for him? He seems so different
from other guys. I must know more about him….”
And there is nothing she can do to stop herself from feeling this way.
Her emotions will instantly overpower her complete frame and she
won’t be able to do anything but feel attracted.
5- Someone Who Has High Value-
Why do you think some antique items are sold for stunningly high
prices, and in most cases, these are the items, which aren’t even
usable?
Does this mean people are just plain stupid spending thousands and

even millions on certain antique items? Well no...But what is the deal
here?
These items are perceived, as high value even though they might be
of no use but the value public attaches to them is massive. This same
concept applies to women and attraction.
You will be considered attractive in the female mind as long as you
are perceived as a male of high value.
A girl will label you a high value male when she considers you to be
more important than her. As long as you maintain the upper hand, you
will always be considered as a high value male.
Therefore, the key here is to make yourself seem more important than
the girl.
Here are certain guidelines to being a high value male-
- A high value male never tries to impress her.
- A high value male never seeks female attention or approval.
- A high value male never puts a girl on a pedestal only because she
is good looking.
- A high value male never settles for anything but the best.
- A high value male never keeps women on top of his priority list.
- A high value male is always willing to walk away when his principles
are violated.
- A high value male always makes the woman work for his attention.
- A high value male has more than enough options to choose from.
- A high value male makes the girl adapt to his reality instead of
adapting to hers.
- A high value male never chases females.

As long as you demonstrate all these traits, you will always be
considered as a high value male, and women won’t be able to help
but feel attraction towards you.