Today I am going to teach you the most powerful word in a Smart Dater's vocabulary.
It's not "flirting".
It's not "teasing".
It's not "love".
It's definitely not "seduction".
It's not even "attraction".
It's..."next"!
As I've stressed in the past, the greatest power you can have in a relationship is the power to leave at any time. Once you realize that nobody is forcing you to be in the relationship and that you do not "need" the other person in order to survive, you'll demand respect for yourself and set clear boundaries about what you will and will not tolerate, which ironically will raise your girlfriend's romantic respect for you and give you more power in the relationship.
I know it's hard to say "next" when you're very much in love with a woman. You may want to tolerate her bad behavior even though it is driving you crazy. You don't want to do anything that might lead to a breakup. Being with your girlfriend feels great, and you don't want to risk losing her.
But guess what? Unless you're willing to take that risk, your girlfriend will keep taking you for granted and her romantic respect for you will continue to drop - until she finally gets tired and finds herself another man.
Is that what you want?
Think about this one really hard!
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