Pattern 1 - a classic:) Also an important note, why patterns might not work on some women.
This is the most classic and legendary of SS patterns. Partly because it is one of the oldest and
partly because it is the most appropriate to use as your first pattern after having had some fluff
talk with the girl you just met.
A very important note on the IC pattern (and even patterning in general) - there are women that
are NOT into the feelings/connections stuff at all. So what's wrong with them? Nothing, they are
just into SEX and getting down with you! Yes, believe it or not, there are women like that, just
waiting to be discovered. Of course, they are a minority, otherwise you wouldn't be reading all
this:) But they do exist and it is important to notice them in time and not to keep them waiting
while you're busy delivering your patterns and trying to make her feel wonderful etc. You could
just be shutting her down. So although they are a rarity and an exception, keep your eyes open
because you never know when you just might find a gem like that:)
In the words of Ross Jeffries (Ross Jeffries): "Not all women will respond to "connection"
patterns. Some women who are already emotionally occupied, but sexually bored, or shut down
emotionally, but open sexually or just don't believe relationships are possible will still be very
receptive to a "body sensation" approach." This actually means, that she won't be much moved
by your descriptions of "emotional connections" but will be entrhalled, once you include feelings
of bodily sensations in you patterns. But most probably they'd actually prefer to feel those bodily
sensations instead of imagining them, and that is your cue to go kino:) (See Kinaesthetics for
more information)
Nevertheless, the "incredible connection" theme has an almost universal appeal for women, se
here's the pattern:
"In fact... just standing here... talking with you... I have an intuition... that when you connect with
someone... someone you really like... someone you're really attracted to who makes you feel that
click… right there... you know that sense of just feeling totally drawn... like you've known this
person forever... like you were meant to know them.... a big part of it is that recognition that you
can RELAX and laugh with this person… can you feel _that_ (touch her and achor the feeling)...
is maybe how it works?"
From here you could for example transition to the Falling in Love pattern.
Update. Madman: "The IC pattern is NOT a good pattern to introduce as the first pattern after
some initial fluff talk. You must have established some sort of a connection first with some other
patterns and only THEN can you help her realise through using the IC pattern that "yes, that's
exactly how I feel right now!". Using the IC pattern won't establish a connection by itself. So the
way to do it is this:
1) Initial fluff talk to establish some faint rapport
2) Patterns and tonality to establish deeper rapport. Take your time, don't hurry, slow down the
tempo of the conversation, watch your tonality. She'll be feeling a lot by now, but she is probably
confused as to the nature of her feelings, so its time for step 3.
3) IC pattern (or a modification of it) to help her realise that an incredible connection with YOU
is exactly what she is feeling at the moment:)"
See also:
Kinaesthetics
Falling in Love pattern
Pattern 2 - Incredible Connection mixed with a little Falling in Love.
Remember, this pattern will make HER feel an incredible connection with YOU. ASF:
"I recently just got out of a long relationship. I guess I'm not your average guy. I mean for me... I
have to develop a mental relationship with someone before anything more will happen. I really
have to "Connect" with someone first... I mean.... Have you ever been talking to someone and
noticed that everything around you seemed to fade away? ...and as you listened more and more
you began to focus more and more of your attention on him. Do you remember how that felt to
truly start becoming attracted to someone? Maybe you remember feeling "butterflies" in your
stomach? To become attracted to someone.... not only because of their physical appearance... but
because of who they are... because as you listened to them, their true attitudes and beliefs became
apparent to you. As you listened to what they had to say... you suddenly realised that this guy was
truly unique. Finally, you had found your "MAN". Do you remember the last time this happened?
Maybe, you felt a little scared or nervous at first because you were feeling such an incredible
connection. Or maybe... you began to think about "What might happen in the near future?" How
your heart would speed up as he began to move closer to you... How you would feel such an
Amazing RUSH of energy as he held you tight in his arms... or how it would feel to have his lips
Pressed against yours for the first time. Maybe the little girl inside you dreams about meeting a
man like this at night... Maybe you think about what steps you would need to take to Hold On to
this guy once you finally meet him? I mean... maybe it seems like I have gone off on a tangent
here... but that is how I feel."
Pattern 3
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever . . instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time?
(sp). Like maybe even though you only knew them for a short while . . it seemed like you had
known them your whole life, as if there were this timeless connection between you and them
(point from her to you). I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers
just drop away and melt and you just feel totally comfortable and at ease with them (sp). And its
like maybe you were even able to (And you might find that you are able to) imagine a time in the
future, say years from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (sp) and looking back
on today as having been the start of it? I just think that's the neatest think when a person can . .
go inside and . . instantly recognize all those qualities and values in that other person, that . . lets
that connection take place with someone (point) . . with me, it usually takes a bit longer.
But when you really FEEL A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious,
timeless link that just makes you feel like you've known someone forever...like you were meant
to know them....and it's almost like YOU'RE LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR FUTURE...like
YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU...when you FEEL THAT...it all starts out as an
actual physical click... a tug that takes place right...(raise your hand over your head, point your
index finger, and then SLOWLY bring it down straight down the middle of her face, without
touching her until you get to her solar plexus, just below her breasts)..THERE!(touch her solar
plexus) Can you FEEL THAT(squeeze her hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can
happen...NOW...WITH ME...I just find that's such a great feeling...isn't it?
I think it's so funny how some people can just do that and let it happen instantaneously (snap)
because for me it takes longer. But I do find that during the course of an evening (a
conversation), as you really listen to someone (pt), and you start to recognize those values and
qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself with me that's when you can make that
connection and really feel that growing bond.
But what I find really interesting is .. what can happen is when you FEEL THAT
CONNECTION, that warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there, then what can sometimes
happen is a picture of this new person your connecting with will sneak itself right into that special
location in YOUR MINE where one keeps a person they care deeply for, and that's how you
know you're already starting to fall for this person. And sometimes during the course of the
evening or maybe even during a simple conversation like this one you'll look up at that picture
and as you continue to feel that attraction growing, its like that picture gets bigger and brighter.
And that's how you know you really just want to be with this person and you're really READY to
be swept off your feet. NOW the funny thing is, when you have that kind of connection with a
new person (sp), maybe as you're snuggling in the sheets about to fall asleep, again (pop) up
comes that picture of this person in that special special place and also maybe at some time during
the day like when you're stepping into the shower or you hear the sound of running water again it
reminds you to see that picture so clearly in your mine."
Pattern 4
From David Shade's online seduction log:
"You want to feel trust for this person because you know you really like this person, so you take
the time to build the trust. Building trust takes being honest with each other while at the same
time being independent. You want to be with someone who is communicative and shares their
feelings freely. And you want to get to the point where you can almost know what they are
thinking, like you could finish their sentences. You so much want to know what this person is
feeling, and you want them to know what you are feeling. And then you get to the point where
you almost want this person to feel the same feelings you are feeling. That is when it is really
special."
Pattern 5
Use this assuming that you've been talking to the girl about incredible connections before, but
somehow things haven't yet quite turned out the way they should have:) But seriously, there are
girls, for whom the patterns have a delayed effect, in which case this follow-up is just perfect for
helping her realise what she feels and wants the next time you meet Ross Jeffries:
"You know the other day we were talking about how sometimes one can suddenly find
themselves feeling really connected to someone.
Me, it happens rarely but when IT IS HAPPENING, I often find I wasn't aware of it until
afterwards and you realize it was the start of something amazing. Something you'll always
cherish for the rest of your life.
I mean sometimes a person can just be looking at someone and suddenly for whatever mysterious
reason, feel a connection so powerfully taking place, a connection that just lets you know that
this person is going to be really special in your life where you find yourself so easily imaging
being with this person in that special way two people can be together who feel that growing
attraction, but then sometimes you don't even NOTICE AND FEEL ITS TAKEN PLACE ..
NOW WITH ME I find though that later when you LOOK BACK ON THE WONDERFUL,
DELIGHTFUL THINGS THAT TOOK PLACE and suddenly you realize how ENCHANTED
YOU FIND YOURSELF FEELING HMMMMM, its like you FALL UNDER A SPELL and you
FEEL SWEPT OFF YOUR FEET and you loose your sense of time and space NOW, as if your
ENTIRE WORLD IS THIS PERSON (IN FRONT OF YOU), like you're LOOKING/listening to
your FUTURE as you just continue to LISTEN SO CAREFULLY.
And I think you may not FEEL THAT CONNECTION INSTANTEOUSLY, but even over short
conversation like this one ... a person can find themselves starting to naturally realize that this
person is someone who totally meets their criteria for someone you want to spend time with in
that special way. In a way that makes you feel mmmm you know what I mean.
And you RECOGNIZE WITHOUT EVEN THINKING ABOUT IT that you really are looking
forward to spending more time with this person and the more you allow yourself to feel this the
more you begin to think of other things (point to your dick) that can be so delightful. And you
begin to feel so safe and uninhibited so that you know its OK to just let yourself go and imagine
having your fantasies really come true .. NOW WITH me thats how I sometimes SEE IT THAT
WAY."
Pattern 6
Ross Jeffries:
"Can I ask you a question, I know this may sound funny but, have you ever felt absolutely
comfortable and at ease talking with someone (you just met)? I mean, when . . that's happening,
its like this (powerful, loving) connection is taking place between you and them (sp). And maybe
you were even able to... imagine a time in the future, say years from now, still feeling that sense
of connection and looking back on today as having been the start of it. And you might find you
feel such a strong attraction that you aren't even aware of what you are doing since your mine
doesn't want you to know what your body is doing until afterwards, and you can reflect on how
wonderful and pleasurable the experience is and you are so glad you didn't miss out on anything."
Pattern 7
Ross Jeffries:
"Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone? Like maybe as
you were there, looking at him, and you started to listen carefully, it was like his voice just
seemed to wrap itself around you, to the point where the rest of you environment just
disappeared, and you entire world, everything you saw, became what was right in front of you?
And anything he described, you found that you could just picture it clearly? So you know, if he
were to talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlit beach, with your perfect partner, you could just
see yourself there with him, just enjoying that, that's what it would be like"
Pattern 8
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time?
Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it seemed that you had known them your whole
life, as if there was a timeless connection between you and them?
I'm wondering as you are listen so carefully, if you can remember the feeling of that, and just how
wonderful it was because sometimes life has a way of making us remember those things, right
prior to discovering that we can experience those feelings again with someone.
Me well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No essay or words or can allow that to
happen, but you just begin to recognize now how much you want to be with someone who is so
good for you. Words and appearances are only expressions, the vehicles that contain the essence
that moves us. It can only happen naturally as the expression of an energy between two people,
but when it does, you just know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers melt and
drop away, and two people come together, fused into one spiritual essence, mingling energies,
building and increasing and intensifying, mingling into an expression of aliveness that words can
initiate but never capture fully.
It has to be indulged inside your imagination, dwelled on, and toyed with, deep, deep inside you.
Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of connection, just how much can you
look forward to enjoying that with someone who moves you in that way? As you remember what
that would be like, and find those possibilities opening before you, in such a way that anything
else blurs into insignificance, how powerfully will you feel that urge to be with someone in that
special way and find out more about this person who has so moved you, with just words? As you
might BEGIN TO RECOGNIZE NOW you want to meet with me, realize I can be reached at
[...]."
Pattern 9
Ross Jeffries:
"What's it like when you're so attracted to the sound of a man's voice, that whenever you find
yourself really listening, its like the warmth of that voice just starts to wrap itself around you, and
spreads all through you, maybe to the point where you find yourself thinking about being with
him in a mmmmmmm special way, in a way that would make you both feel mmmmm you know?
You hear their voice in your mind maybe when you're falling asleep you get that feeling on the
inside and you feel warm all over. So much so that as those pictures in your mind get bigger, and
brighter and more intense, and those feelings mm intensify you could just experience an
overwhelming desire, a desire to be with him to the point where you just had to be with him in
that special way (pick up the phone, and invite him over)"
Pattern 10
Remind her of all her feelings she has always wanted to share and what a wonderful experience it
is to find someone to share all those feelings with. Not specifically an IC pattern, but related
nevertheless, as you are creating a feeling in her of being so completely understood.
Ross Jeffries:
"Do you remember when you were a little child and you went to bed expecting tomorrow to be a
rainy stormy day? But you woke up the next morning and to your delight and surprise, you
looked out to see a brightly shining sun, and not a cloud in the sky? And you realized, "Hey...this
day is MINE to make happen?" Imagine sharing those feelings everyday with someone who truly
understands, along with the passions only adults can create and share."
Pattern 11
Incredible connection via greeting card or e-mail. Jonathan Ness, mindlist:
"Isn't it crazy (soften...soften...) how you meet somebody and you just feel an instantaneous
connection... With me, it's like a click right in your stomach when you realize you're going to like
and trust this person for a long time. That's how I felt ("You go first" principle...) when I met you
at [where] [when]. I confess (girls LOVE confessions...), I have been thinking about you, wondering
how much you have been thinking about me, too. (not "whether" but "how much"!). How
surprised would you be to find yourself wishing you could spend some more time with me...
Right now, I can see us over coffee laughing and having the best time. As you think about this
more and more, I'm sure that you can feel a smile coming to your face, realizing how much fun
we're going to have. Let's meet [where] [when] for lunch, around noon, so we can get to know
each other better. Or, if Friday night would work better for you, give me a call at [number] and
we'll arrange the details."
Pattern 12
Notice the tie-in with the Cialdani Reciprocation Principle. Kevin Kupal, mindlist:
"Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection with someone (point to self), a guy who just
makes you FEEL THAT CLICK, right there (click in front of her chest). And when you do, I bet,
that guy can just make you FEEL SO WARM AND WONDERFUL, DEEP INSIDE YOU...
make you FEEL such a FANTASTIC DELIGHT, an INTENSE, DELICIOUS PLEASURE...
inside YOUR MINE... DEEP INSIDE YOU... just by being with him (point to self), just by
looking at him (she's looking at you, dummy). Now, I WONDER how you WONDER how when
you've found that guy (point to self), and FEEL ALL THE DELIGHT he gives you, how will
you give back to him some of the delight that he makes you feel... how will you GIVE YOUR
ALL to please and delight him (point to self), even just an inkling of the delight he gives to you?
How good will you feel just by giving him back some of the incredible delight he gives you?
When you feel that the more you please him, the more you exponentially please yourself?"
This is the most classic and legendary of SS patterns. Partly because it is one of the oldest and
partly because it is the most appropriate to use as your first pattern after having had some fluff
talk with the girl you just met.
A very important note on the IC pattern (and even patterning in general) - there are women that
are NOT into the feelings/connections stuff at all. So what's wrong with them? Nothing, they are
just into SEX and getting down with you! Yes, believe it or not, there are women like that, just
waiting to be discovered. Of course, they are a minority, otherwise you wouldn't be reading all
this:) But they do exist and it is important to notice them in time and not to keep them waiting
while you're busy delivering your patterns and trying to make her feel wonderful etc. You could
just be shutting her down. So although they are a rarity and an exception, keep your eyes open
because you never know when you just might find a gem like that:)
In the words of Ross Jeffries (Ross Jeffries): "Not all women will respond to "connection"
patterns. Some women who are already emotionally occupied, but sexually bored, or shut down
emotionally, but open sexually or just don't believe relationships are possible will still be very
receptive to a "body sensation" approach." This actually means, that she won't be much moved
by your descriptions of "emotional connections" but will be entrhalled, once you include feelings
of bodily sensations in you patterns. But most probably they'd actually prefer to feel those bodily
sensations instead of imagining them, and that is your cue to go kino:) (See Kinaesthetics for
more information)
Nevertheless, the "incredible connection" theme has an almost universal appeal for women, se
here's the pattern:
"In fact... just standing here... talking with you... I have an intuition... that when you connect with
someone... someone you really like... someone you're really attracted to who makes you feel that
click… right there... you know that sense of just feeling totally drawn... like you've known this
person forever... like you were meant to know them.... a big part of it is that recognition that you
can RELAX and laugh with this person… can you feel _that_ (touch her and achor the feeling)...
is maybe how it works?"
From here you could for example transition to the Falling in Love pattern.
Update. Madman: "The IC pattern is NOT a good pattern to introduce as the first pattern after
some initial fluff talk. You must have established some sort of a connection first with some other
patterns and only THEN can you help her realise through using the IC pattern that "yes, that's
exactly how I feel right now!". Using the IC pattern won't establish a connection by itself. So the
way to do it is this:
1) Initial fluff talk to establish some faint rapport
2) Patterns and tonality to establish deeper rapport. Take your time, don't hurry, slow down the
tempo of the conversation, watch your tonality. She'll be feeling a lot by now, but she is probably
confused as to the nature of her feelings, so its time for step 3.
3) IC pattern (or a modification of it) to help her realise that an incredible connection with YOU
is exactly what she is feeling at the moment:)"
See also:
Kinaesthetics
Falling in Love pattern
Pattern 2 - Incredible Connection mixed with a little Falling in Love.
Remember, this pattern will make HER feel an incredible connection with YOU. ASF:
"I recently just got out of a long relationship. I guess I'm not your average guy. I mean for me... I
have to develop a mental relationship with someone before anything more will happen. I really
have to "Connect" with someone first... I mean.... Have you ever been talking to someone and
noticed that everything around you seemed to fade away? ...and as you listened more and more
you began to focus more and more of your attention on him. Do you remember how that felt to
truly start becoming attracted to someone? Maybe you remember feeling "butterflies" in your
stomach? To become attracted to someone.... not only because of their physical appearance... but
because of who they are... because as you listened to them, their true attitudes and beliefs became
apparent to you. As you listened to what they had to say... you suddenly realised that this guy was
truly unique. Finally, you had found your "MAN". Do you remember the last time this happened?
Maybe, you felt a little scared or nervous at first because you were feeling such an incredible
connection. Or maybe... you began to think about "What might happen in the near future?" How
your heart would speed up as he began to move closer to you... How you would feel such an
Amazing RUSH of energy as he held you tight in his arms... or how it would feel to have his lips
Pressed against yours for the first time. Maybe the little girl inside you dreams about meeting a
man like this at night... Maybe you think about what steps you would need to take to Hold On to
this guy once you finally meet him? I mean... maybe it seems like I have gone off on a tangent
here... but that is how I feel."
Pattern 3
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever . . instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time?
(sp). Like maybe even though you only knew them for a short while . . it seemed like you had
known them your whole life, as if there were this timeless connection between you and them
(point from her to you). I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers
just drop away and melt and you just feel totally comfortable and at ease with them (sp). And its
like maybe you were even able to (And you might find that you are able to) imagine a time in the
future, say years from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (sp) and looking back
on today as having been the start of it? I just think that's the neatest think when a person can . .
go inside and . . instantly recognize all those qualities and values in that other person, that . . lets
that connection take place with someone (point) . . with me, it usually takes a bit longer.
But when you really FEEL A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious,
timeless link that just makes you feel like you've known someone forever...like you were meant
to know them....and it's almost like YOU'RE LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR FUTURE...like
YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU...when you FEEL THAT...it all starts out as an
actual physical click... a tug that takes place right...(raise your hand over your head, point your
index finger, and then SLOWLY bring it down straight down the middle of her face, without
touching her until you get to her solar plexus, just below her breasts)..THERE!(touch her solar
plexus) Can you FEEL THAT(squeeze her hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can
happen...NOW...WITH ME...I just find that's such a great feeling...isn't it?
I think it's so funny how some people can just do that and let it happen instantaneously (snap)
because for me it takes longer. But I do find that during the course of an evening (a
conversation), as you really listen to someone (pt), and you start to recognize those values and
qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself with me that's when you can make that
connection and really feel that growing bond.
But what I find really interesting is .. what can happen is when you FEEL THAT
CONNECTION, that warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there, then what can sometimes
happen is a picture of this new person your connecting with will sneak itself right into that special
location in YOUR MINE where one keeps a person they care deeply for, and that's how you
know you're already starting to fall for this person. And sometimes during the course of the
evening or maybe even during a simple conversation like this one you'll look up at that picture
and as you continue to feel that attraction growing, its like that picture gets bigger and brighter.
And that's how you know you really just want to be with this person and you're really READY to
be swept off your feet. NOW the funny thing is, when you have that kind of connection with a
new person (sp), maybe as you're snuggling in the sheets about to fall asleep, again (pop) up
comes that picture of this person in that special special place and also maybe at some time during
the day like when you're stepping into the shower or you hear the sound of running water again it
reminds you to see that picture so clearly in your mine."
Pattern 4
From David Shade's online seduction log:
"You want to feel trust for this person because you know you really like this person, so you take
the time to build the trust. Building trust takes being honest with each other while at the same
time being independent. You want to be with someone who is communicative and shares their
feelings freely. And you want to get to the point where you can almost know what they are
thinking, like you could finish their sentences. You so much want to know what this person is
feeling, and you want them to know what you are feeling. And then you get to the point where
you almost want this person to feel the same feelings you are feeling. That is when it is really
special."
Pattern 5
Use this assuming that you've been talking to the girl about incredible connections before, but
somehow things haven't yet quite turned out the way they should have:) But seriously, there are
girls, for whom the patterns have a delayed effect, in which case this follow-up is just perfect for
helping her realise what she feels and wants the next time you meet Ross Jeffries:
"You know the other day we were talking about how sometimes one can suddenly find
themselves feeling really connected to someone.
Me, it happens rarely but when IT IS HAPPENING, I often find I wasn't aware of it until
afterwards and you realize it was the start of something amazing. Something you'll always
cherish for the rest of your life.
I mean sometimes a person can just be looking at someone and suddenly for whatever mysterious
reason, feel a connection so powerfully taking place, a connection that just lets you know that
this person is going to be really special in your life where you find yourself so easily imaging
being with this person in that special way two people can be together who feel that growing
attraction, but then sometimes you don't even NOTICE AND FEEL ITS TAKEN PLACE ..
NOW WITH ME I find though that later when you LOOK BACK ON THE WONDERFUL,
DELIGHTFUL THINGS THAT TOOK PLACE and suddenly you realize how ENCHANTED
YOU FIND YOURSELF FEELING HMMMMM, its like you FALL UNDER A SPELL and you
FEEL SWEPT OFF YOUR FEET and you loose your sense of time and space NOW, as if your
ENTIRE WORLD IS THIS PERSON (IN FRONT OF YOU), like you're LOOKING/listening to
your FUTURE as you just continue to LISTEN SO CAREFULLY.
And I think you may not FEEL THAT CONNECTION INSTANTEOUSLY, but even over short
conversation like this one ... a person can find themselves starting to naturally realize that this
person is someone who totally meets their criteria for someone you want to spend time with in
that special way. In a way that makes you feel mmmm you know what I mean.
And you RECOGNIZE WITHOUT EVEN THINKING ABOUT IT that you really are looking
forward to spending more time with this person and the more you allow yourself to feel this the
more you begin to think of other things (point to your dick) that can be so delightful. And you
begin to feel so safe and uninhibited so that you know its OK to just let yourself go and imagine
having your fantasies really come true .. NOW WITH me thats how I sometimes SEE IT THAT
WAY."
Pattern 6
Ross Jeffries:
"Can I ask you a question, I know this may sound funny but, have you ever felt absolutely
comfortable and at ease talking with someone (you just met)? I mean, when . . that's happening,
its like this (powerful, loving) connection is taking place between you and them (sp). And maybe
you were even able to... imagine a time in the future, say years from now, still feeling that sense
of connection and looking back on today as having been the start of it. And you might find you
feel such a strong attraction that you aren't even aware of what you are doing since your mine
doesn't want you to know what your body is doing until afterwards, and you can reflect on how
wonderful and pleasurable the experience is and you are so glad you didn't miss out on anything."
Pattern 7
Ross Jeffries:
"Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone? Like maybe as
you were there, looking at him, and you started to listen carefully, it was like his voice just
seemed to wrap itself around you, to the point where the rest of you environment just
disappeared, and you entire world, everything you saw, became what was right in front of you?
And anything he described, you found that you could just picture it clearly? So you know, if he
were to talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlit beach, with your perfect partner, you could just
see yourself there with him, just enjoying that, that's what it would be like"
Pattern 8
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time?
Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it seemed that you had known them your whole
life, as if there was a timeless connection between you and them?
I'm wondering as you are listen so carefully, if you can remember the feeling of that, and just how
wonderful it was because sometimes life has a way of making us remember those things, right
prior to discovering that we can experience those feelings again with someone.
Me well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No essay or words or can allow that to
happen, but you just begin to recognize now how much you want to be with someone who is so
good for you. Words and appearances are only expressions, the vehicles that contain the essence
that moves us. It can only happen naturally as the expression of an energy between two people,
but when it does, you just know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers melt and
drop away, and two people come together, fused into one spiritual essence, mingling energies,
building and increasing and intensifying, mingling into an expression of aliveness that words can
initiate but never capture fully.
It has to be indulged inside your imagination, dwelled on, and toyed with, deep, deep inside you.
Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of connection, just how much can you
look forward to enjoying that with someone who moves you in that way? As you remember what
that would be like, and find those possibilities opening before you, in such a way that anything
else blurs into insignificance, how powerfully will you feel that urge to be with someone in that
special way and find out more about this person who has so moved you, with just words? As you
might BEGIN TO RECOGNIZE NOW you want to meet with me, realize I can be reached at
[...]."
Pattern 9
Ross Jeffries:
"What's it like when you're so attracted to the sound of a man's voice, that whenever you find
yourself really listening, its like the warmth of that voice just starts to wrap itself around you, and
spreads all through you, maybe to the point where you find yourself thinking about being with
him in a mmmmmmm special way, in a way that would make you both feel mmmmm you know?
You hear their voice in your mind maybe when you're falling asleep you get that feeling on the
inside and you feel warm all over. So much so that as those pictures in your mind get bigger, and
brighter and more intense, and those feelings mm intensify you could just experience an
overwhelming desire, a desire to be with him to the point where you just had to be with him in
that special way (pick up the phone, and invite him over)"
Pattern 10
Remind her of all her feelings she has always wanted to share and what a wonderful experience it
is to find someone to share all those feelings with. Not specifically an IC pattern, but related
nevertheless, as you are creating a feeling in her of being so completely understood.
Ross Jeffries:
"Do you remember when you were a little child and you went to bed expecting tomorrow to be a
rainy stormy day? But you woke up the next morning and to your delight and surprise, you
looked out to see a brightly shining sun, and not a cloud in the sky? And you realized, "Hey...this
day is MINE to make happen?" Imagine sharing those feelings everyday with someone who truly
understands, along with the passions only adults can create and share."
Pattern 11
Incredible connection via greeting card or e-mail. Jonathan Ness, mindlist:
"Isn't it crazy (soften...soften...) how you meet somebody and you just feel an instantaneous
connection... With me, it's like a click right in your stomach when you realize you're going to like
and trust this person for a long time. That's how I felt ("You go first" principle...) when I met you
at [where] [when]. I confess (girls LOVE confessions...), I have been thinking about you, wondering
how much you have been thinking about me, too. (not "whether" but "how much"!). How
surprised would you be to find yourself wishing you could spend some more time with me...
Right now, I can see us over coffee laughing and having the best time. As you think about this
more and more, I'm sure that you can feel a smile coming to your face, realizing how much fun
we're going to have. Let's meet [where] [when] for lunch, around noon, so we can get to know
each other better. Or, if Friday night would work better for you, give me a call at [number] and
we'll arrange the details."
Pattern 12
Notice the tie-in with the Cialdani Reciprocation Principle. Kevin Kupal, mindlist:
"Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection with someone (point to self), a guy who just
makes you FEEL THAT CLICK, right there (click in front of her chest). And when you do, I bet,
that guy can just make you FEEL SO WARM AND WONDERFUL, DEEP INSIDE YOU...
make you FEEL such a FANTASTIC DELIGHT, an INTENSE, DELICIOUS PLEASURE...
inside YOUR MINE... DEEP INSIDE YOU... just by being with him (point to self), just by
looking at him (she's looking at you, dummy). Now, I WONDER how you WONDER how when
you've found that guy (point to self), and FEEL ALL THE DELIGHT he gives you, how will
you give back to him some of the delight that he makes you feel... how will you GIVE YOUR
ALL to please and delight him (point to self), even just an inkling of the delight he gives to you?
How good will you feel just by giving him back some of the incredible delight he gives you?
When you feel that the more you please him, the more you exponentially please yourself?"
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