Falling in Love patterns

Pattern 1
An example of using quoting, stacking realities, anchoring and time-distortion. Using Ross
Jeffries' original as the basis.
You: "You know... I was reading the most interesting article about how men and women fall in
love differently. And it was saying that men usually feel an attraction first, but that women, by
contrast, usually feel a connection and then become more attracted. I mean, you know that kind
of special connection you sometimes feel... that mysterious compelling click that takes place
right THERE (touch her solar plexus, thus planting an anchor:)..." (See anchoring)
Don't forget that she might interrupt you any second and start talking about her feelings. Let her!
Encourage her! Be ready to change the course of the conversation, listen to her trance words,
anchor the feelings while she describes them to you. (See trance words)
You: "So... this article was saying, that when it's really special... that's when you can just STOP...
and IMAGINE a time in future... say six months from now...blah blah blah". (See time distortion)
You: "(having directed the conversation in the direction of how men and women fall in love
differently) You know, I was telling my friend about this, and she was saying, when she really
starts to FEEL THAT CONNECTION.... and GROW even more attracted… she begins to pay
attention in a special way. First, becomes aware... of the rhythm of her breathing... the beating of
her heart... and that sense of growing fascination... such that as she continues to be aware of all
this... one particular feature of the guys face begins to rivet her attention... so as she just continue
to keep looking… it's like the rest of the environment disappears... and the entire world becomes
this face... this voice that just start to wrap itself around her like a pair of powerful but gentle
arms... pulling her in... deeper.... just allowing that warmth surround her… etc. etc:)"
Well, by now the situation should be ripe enough for you to throw in your own opinion about the
subject:) You could make up a pattern of your own or acquire some ready-made patterns from
Ross Jeffries at www.seduction.com (they cost a lot though, I'm talking hundreds of dollars).
See also:
Quoting and stacking realities
Anchoring
Trance words
Time distortion
Pattern 2
Extended version of the above pattern. This time no commentaries, no pointers, no interruptions
- just the pattern. Modified from Ross Jeffries' original FiL pattern:
"I was reading this article that was talking about the difference in the way men and women fall in
love. And it was saying that men usually feel an attraction right away but women by contrast
usually feel a connection and then BECOME VERY ATTRACTED.
I mean you know that kind of special connection you sometimes feel ... that mysterious
compelling click that takes place right there (right in the center part of you).... where you really
feel so warm, safe and comfortable and it just lets you know this person is going to be so right
for you in so many ways and you just slide into that sense of having known them for ever as if is
was meant to happen, and as if you've always known them, maybe to the point where you picture
this person so big and bright in that special place in your mine.
You don't even know why you just have to go deep inside and find all those values that are so
important to you but you just naturally link them up with this person such that you find yourself
beginning to look through the eyes of attraction ... cause I find when you look through the eyes of
attraction, look through the eyes of desire, that's when you can make that connection and really
feel that growing bond growing more and more as you begin to imagine being with this person,
in that special way that two people can feel so wonderful.
And as you feel that passion growing more and more maybe to a point where you feel yourself
just letting go completely as you allow this person to come deep inside releasing all those feelings
that have been building and building up inside, you just want to release them in a flood and
I find when you do that now with me I find you just feel so enchanted like you are now under a
love spell cast upon you such that you can't control yourself and just find yourself going wild
with it, and feeling so powerful a desire for this person where you feel so warm inside, and ready
for them to come deep inside you, that you imagine: "mmmm how wonderful it will feel you and
me together".
So this article was saying, that when it's really special, that's when you can just stop and imagine
a time in the future, say years from now still feeling that growing attraction and looking back on
this moment as being the inevitable start of it.
My friend ____ was telling me that her roommate has this best friend Dawn. And when Dawn
starts to notice that growing attraction, it happens in a certain way.
Like first, as she looks at the guy, and starts to really pay attention, she just becomes aware of
certain things like the rhythm of her breathing, and the beating of her heart, and the out line of his
face so as she becomes aware of all these things, one particular feature of his face just starts to
rivet her attention. So she becomes totally absorbed in the connection taking place and as that's
all happening, it's like the warmth of his voice, this voice that just wraps itself around her like a
pair of powerful but gentle arms .. pulling her in ... deeper ... just allowing that warmth to spread
all through her... the deep rich warmth of it just starts to penetrate her thoughts, and as her heart
beats faster and her breathing increases, that warmth just heats up into fire, a fire spreading
through her chest and down through her belly, a fire pounding and pulsating all through her,
down to where she longs to have it go, until that desire for him just becomes utterly
overwhelming, and she just surrenders to it completely.

...such that she opens herself up completely and allows this person to come inside her so deep
releasing all those feelings that have been building and building and building that she just wants
to release those feelings in a flood.
I find when I HAVE those responses .. it's like you just let yourself go completely ... and go wild
with it ... now that's how I see it so clearly. Now what really fascinates me about all this is not
just how people connect so powerfully .. but how people connect with their own needs and wants
and desires."
Pattern 3
Taken from "Sweep women off their feet...":
"If you met the guy of your dreams today, would you let him know first or would you first tell all
your girlfriends about this guy you met and how you think he is THE ONE?"
"I'd know right away but I don't think I could tell him right away."
"But would you tell your girlfriends?"
"I guess."
"Just as I thought. That's interesting because it's a known fact that guys brag to their friends about
the new girl they picked up when they were rejected yet they never say a word when they really
meet a girl and fall in love. Women on the other hand are the exact opposite. They get so
emotional when they meet their soul mate that they have to share the news with their girlfriends.
The sad thing is that most people fail to recognize when they meet their soul mates or if they do
they don't have the courage to find out for sure for fear of disappointment. That's why there are
only a few people out there who ever get to experience true love, because they are not afraid to
experienced it. Do you feel this…(squeeze her hand or at least make some kind of contact)…is
the way it really is?…with me, now…I think most people know it but still deny it hoping that
one day something will just happen out of the blue, but it will never happen until they just allow
it to happen."
Pattern 4
Ross Jeffries:
"Have you ever thought about the difference between attraction and falling in love?
Well actually I think they take place in different settings. I mean, attraction is what you
experience when you are in the presence of that person, (point) and you look at him and you
think to yourself . . . mmmmmm, and you start to have certain thoughts, images and you know
what that feels like, right?
But falling in love, well I think takes place when your not even in that person's presence. I mean,
can you remember a time when you totally fell for someone. . . . And as you are looking at me,
thinking about what I'm saying, you can remember how that felt, don't you.
Yea, but here's how it happened. You spent some time with that person (point) and then you went
home and you picture that person in your mind (frame) right? And then maybe you imagine
yourself in all sorts of situations with this person (point) having lots of fun, and enjoying the
feelings and things you like to enjoy with them. Can you remember how that feels?
And then maybe you start to list all the qualities about him you really like: He's so funny, he's so
smart, he's so fun to be with, whatever they were, whatever the things are that you really want
and enjoy that with someone (point), right?
Then you get this feeling in the pit of your stomach, right in your solar plexus that just starts to
spread out and lets you know that you really, really love this person (point). I mean, can you feel
that as I describe it to you?
And then, here's the real kicker . . you start saying his name outloud, you start bringing it up in
conversations with your friends, and maybe you even dance around the house singing it if your a
real goof, right?
See, I think everything, including falling in love is a process. And when you do that process with
someone (point) and really let it happen, that's when the magic takes over, the magic we're really
all looking for.
Of course, sometimes that can take months, but the real magic is when it happened instantly and
you know it right away. That's an incredible feeling, isn't?"
Pattern 5
A minor modification of the previous pattern. Ross Jeffries:
"I was reading in a book about the difference between attraction and being in love.
And it was really interesting to learn that attraction takes place when like someone is sitting
across from you and you just notice something about them ... could be anything. The expression
on their face, or some unique feature that just captures your attention, or maybe its just their
voice, the way it might wrap itself around you like a pair of strong, warm but gentle arms and
just penetrates your thoughts and spreads all through you. Whatever it is, it all that takes place in
this person's presence.
But falling in love is what you'll do yourself, after you've gone outside this person's presence. I
mean, think about it ... what happens is you spend some time with this person and then you go
home and you then you picture this person and your mine, in that special place and you mine,
where you keep people you care deeply for. And then what you do is you start to imagine being
with this person in different situations and in all sorts of different ways like maybe introducing
him to your friends or having all sorts of fun and interesting adventures together.
And then maybe what you even do is you start to list all the qualities that you really like about
this person and for every quality thing you mention to yourself you get that feeling right in there
where you get that warm feeling and with every feature you notice that this feeling increases, like
oh he's so smart, or he's so much fun to be with, of he's so understanding of the world. And then,
what you do is you start to repeat his name to yourself and then what you do, the real kicker is
you start bringing up his name in every conversation, John said this or John said that and that's
when you know you're absolutely hooked on this person, you know what I mean?
And I think when you do that, now, with me, I find that that's when you really feel that passion
growing and you don't even know why you just have to stop and go deep inside and just allow
this person's presence to penetrate you consciousness and come inside you so deep and when
that's happening its like that feeling there it just starts to move down, deeper as you create an
opening for it, an opening, that just feels all those feelings that have been stored up, and they just
start to flood through that opening... you know what I mean?"
Pattern 6
One of the basic structures of a seduction is to model the process of falling in love. The setup in
this example has the couple looking at a newspaper on the movies page with the male
commenting on one of the male actors but of course you can modify it to your liking as it is fairly
easy to introduce the "cute actor/singer/pop-star" theme into almost any conversation. Jobet
Claudio, Mindlist:
Him: He's cute ain't he?
Her: Yeah.
Him: What exactly do you feel when you look at a cute guy (gesturing to your face).
Her: Hmm... I just feel a tingle of sorts (hah... that's one for the echoing).
Him: You like romance movies, don't you?
Her: Yeah. I love em.
Him: I'm just curious as to why you like romance movies.
Her: They make me feel so good... you know.
Him: Yeah. It can make you FEEL THAT TINGLE, (pts) I bet.
Her: Yeah.
Him: Well, I'm curious again. How do you know that YOU'RE FALLING IN LOVE with a guy
(pts)?
Her: Well... I... I don't know... it just happens and I just realize it.
Him: Well... I read somewhere that there's this guy who researched about how women fall in
love. In that study, he said that invariably (hah... Cialdini authority) women (point to her) at first
find this small "gateway"... this thing that they notice about a guy (pts)... it may be small or big,
like a dimple, or a smile, or the eyes, or a soothing voice... anything. Then, the woman begins to
feel a tingling sensation when this guy (pts) is around... And the funny thing is, this guy's (pts)
presence creates a certain richness of experience for women (pth), like, even small things, like a
glance, or a look in the eye (look in her eyes), or a short, simple, soothing chat... all that... takes
on a special meaning, that special, delicious feeling, you can't even begin to describe... that's
when you realize that...THIS GUY IS SPECIAL (pts)...and special, in a special way...
Pattern 7
Talking about past relationships is an excellent chance to talk about the subjects of falling and
being in love. But there is an added bonus to it - you can talk about it referring to your former
love interest and you together as "we" and you can talk about what that "we" felt describing it in
the present tense. Like this: "The beginning was so beautiful... its like... everything around fades
away... and when we are looking into each other's eyes... we can see each other's souls". Did you
notice the ambiguity? "We"... "are looking into each other's eyes":)? Jobet Claudio from Mindlist
elaborates:
"Most women are suckers for love stories. Win or lose, success or failed, they really love love
stories. Invariably, when in a conversation with a woman, the topic of love stories (as referenced
to yourself) will often crop up as you talk about ex-boyfriends, current boyfriends, current
girlfriend, ex-girlfriends etc.
Now, the "we", in the context of the story-telling, should refer to the ex and myself, but then
again, "we" is ambigous. Coupled with a couple of hand gestures and more referential
ambiguities, conscious use of the "we/us" paradigm could be one of the most subtle, insidous and
undetectable, non-verbal referential index shifts I know.
[Example]
Me: So, you have a boyfriend?
Her: Not right now. Last one I broke up with a few months ago... how about you?
Me: Yeah, same here. It was a beautiful relationship. Too bad it had to end the way it did... Its
like... at first... we are so much in love. We feel that the whole world is revolving around us...
you know what it's like to FEEL TOTALLY IN LOVE, don't you? We're like that (gesture back
and forth). It's like, when we look at each other's eyes (look into her eyes)... we can see... into
each other's soul... and we can SEE... and... FEEL... that love... burning within the both of us...
warm and close enough to touch (touch her forearm, or a non-touching gesture towards her
chest)... and that bond between us... really so strong... so powerful... so overwhelming... It does
become that way at times, now doesn't it?
[End example]
It's totally disarming, since you're supposed to be talking about a past love. What happens though
is that that past loves serves as a springboard into a process that evokes the state of love in the
woman you're talking to."

Incredible Connection patterns

Pattern 1 - a classic:) Also an important note, why patterns might not work on some women.
This is the most classic and legendary of SS patterns. Partly because it is one of the oldest and
partly because it is the most appropriate to use as your first pattern after having had some fluff
talk with the girl you just met.
A very important note on the IC pattern (and even patterning in general) - there are women that
are NOT into the feelings/connections stuff at all. So what's wrong with them? Nothing, they are
just into SEX and getting down with you! Yes, believe it or not, there are women like that, just
waiting to be discovered. Of course, they are a minority, otherwise you wouldn't be reading all
this:) But they do exist and it is important to notice them in time and not to keep them waiting
while you're busy delivering your patterns and trying to make her feel wonderful etc. You could
just be shutting her down. So although they are a rarity and an exception, keep your eyes open
because you never know when you just might find a gem like that:)
In the words of Ross Jeffries (Ross Jeffries): "Not all women will respond to "connection"
patterns. Some women who are already emotionally occupied, but sexually bored, or shut down
emotionally, but open sexually or just don't believe relationships are possible will still be very
receptive to a "body sensation" approach." This actually means, that she won't be much moved
by your descriptions of "emotional connections" but will be entrhalled, once you include feelings
of bodily sensations in you patterns. But most probably they'd actually prefer to feel those bodily
sensations instead of imagining them, and that is your cue to go kino:) (See Kinaesthetics for
more information)
Nevertheless, the "incredible connection" theme has an almost universal appeal for women, se
here's the pattern:
"In fact... just standing here... talking with you... I have an intuition... that when you connect with
someone... someone you really like... someone you're really attracted to who makes you feel that
click… right there... you know that sense of just feeling totally drawn... like you've known this
person forever... like you were meant to know them.... a big part of it is that recognition that you
can RELAX and laugh with this person… can you feel _that_ (touch her and achor the feeling)...
is maybe how it works?"
From here you could for example transition to the Falling in Love pattern.
Update. Madman: "The IC pattern is NOT a good pattern to introduce as the first pattern after
some initial fluff talk. You must have established some sort of a connection first with some other
patterns and only THEN can you help her realise through using the IC pattern that "yes, that's
exactly how I feel right now!". Using the IC pattern won't establish a connection by itself. So the
way to do it is this:
1) Initial fluff talk to establish some faint rapport
2) Patterns and tonality to establish deeper rapport. Take your time, don't hurry, slow down the
tempo of the conversation, watch your tonality. She'll be feeling a lot by now, but she is probably
confused as to the nature of her feelings, so its time for step 3.
3) IC pattern (or a modification of it) to help her realise that an incredible connection with YOU
is exactly what she is feeling at the moment:)"
See also:
Kinaesthetics
Falling in Love pattern
Pattern 2 - Incredible Connection mixed with a little Falling in Love.
Remember, this pattern will make HER feel an incredible connection with YOU. ASF:
"I recently just got out of a long relationship. I guess I'm not your average guy. I mean for me... I
have to develop a mental relationship with someone before anything more will happen. I really
have to "Connect" with someone first... I mean.... Have you ever been talking to someone and
noticed that everything around you seemed to fade away? ...and as you listened more and more
you began to focus more and more of your attention on him. Do you remember how that felt to
truly start becoming attracted to someone? Maybe you remember feeling "butterflies" in your
stomach? To become attracted to someone.... not only because of their physical appearance... but
because of who they are... because as you listened to them, their true attitudes and beliefs became
apparent to you. As you listened to what they had to say... you suddenly realised that this guy was
truly unique. Finally, you had found your "MAN". Do you remember the last time this happened?
Maybe, you felt a little scared or nervous at first because you were feeling such an incredible
connection. Or maybe... you began to think about "What might happen in the near future?" How
your heart would speed up as he began to move closer to you... How you would feel such an
Amazing RUSH of energy as he held you tight in his arms... or how it would feel to have his lips
Pressed against yours for the first time. Maybe the little girl inside you dreams about meeting a
man like this at night... Maybe you think about what steps you would need to take to Hold On to
this guy once you finally meet him? I mean... maybe it seems like I have gone off on a tangent
here... but that is how I feel."
Pattern 3
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever . . instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time?
(sp). Like maybe even though you only knew them for a short while . . it seemed like you had
known them your whole life, as if there were this timeless connection between you and them
(point from her to you). I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers
just drop away and melt and you just feel totally comfortable and at ease with them (sp). And its
like maybe you were even able to (And you might find that you are able to) imagine a time in the
future, say years from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (sp) and looking back
on today as having been the start of it? I just think that's the neatest think when a person can . .
go inside and . . instantly recognize all those qualities and values in that other person, that . . lets
that connection take place with someone (point) . . with me, it usually takes a bit longer.
But when you really FEEL A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious,
timeless link that just makes you feel like you've known someone forever...like you were meant
to know them....and it's almost like YOU'RE LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR FUTURE...like
YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU...when you FEEL THAT...it all starts out as an
actual physical click... a tug that takes place right...(raise your hand over your head, point your
index finger, and then SLOWLY bring it down straight down the middle of her face, without
touching her until you get to her solar plexus, just below her breasts)..THERE!(touch her solar
plexus) Can you FEEL THAT(squeeze her hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can
happen...NOW...WITH ME...I just find that's such a great feeling...isn't it?
I think it's so funny how some people can just do that and let it happen instantaneously (snap)
because for me it takes longer. But I do find that during the course of an evening (a
conversation), as you really listen to someone (pt), and you start to recognize those values and
qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself with me that's when you can make that
connection and really feel that growing bond.
But what I find really interesting is .. what can happen is when you FEEL THAT
CONNECTION, that warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there, then what can sometimes
happen is a picture of this new person your connecting with will sneak itself right into that special
location in YOUR MINE where one keeps a person they care deeply for, and that's how you
know you're already starting to fall for this person. And sometimes during the course of the
evening or maybe even during a simple conversation like this one you'll look up at that picture
and as you continue to feel that attraction growing, its like that picture gets bigger and brighter.
And that's how you know you really just want to be with this person and you're really READY to
be swept off your feet. NOW the funny thing is, when you have that kind of connection with a
new person (sp), maybe as you're snuggling in the sheets about to fall asleep, again (pop) up
comes that picture of this person in that special special place and also maybe at some time during
the day like when you're stepping into the shower or you hear the sound of running water again it
reminds you to see that picture so clearly in your mine."
Pattern 4
From David Shade's online seduction log:
"You want to feel trust for this person because you know you really like this person, so you take
the time to build the trust. Building trust takes being honest with each other while at the same
time being independent. You want to be with someone who is communicative and shares their
feelings freely. And you want to get to the point where you can almost know what they are
thinking, like you could finish their sentences. You so much want to know what this person is
feeling, and you want them to know what you are feeling. And then you get to the point where
you almost want this person to feel the same feelings you are feeling. That is when it is really
special."
Pattern 5
Use this assuming that you've been talking to the girl about incredible connections before, but
somehow things haven't yet quite turned out the way they should have:) But seriously, there are
girls, for whom the patterns have a delayed effect, in which case this follow-up is just perfect for
helping her realise what she feels and wants the next time you meet Ross Jeffries:
"You know the other day we were talking about how sometimes one can suddenly find
themselves feeling really connected to someone.
Me, it happens rarely but when IT IS HAPPENING, I often find I wasn't aware of it until
afterwards and you realize it was the start of something amazing. Something you'll always
cherish for the rest of your life.
I mean sometimes a person can just be looking at someone and suddenly for whatever mysterious
reason, feel a connection so powerfully taking place, a connection that just lets you know that
this person is going to be really special in your life where you find yourself so easily imaging
being with this person in that special way two people can be together who feel that growing
attraction, but then sometimes you don't even NOTICE AND FEEL ITS TAKEN PLACE ..
NOW WITH ME I find though that later when you LOOK BACK ON THE WONDERFUL,
DELIGHTFUL THINGS THAT TOOK PLACE and suddenly you realize how ENCHANTED
YOU FIND YOURSELF FEELING HMMMMM, its like you FALL UNDER A SPELL and you
FEEL SWEPT OFF YOUR FEET and you loose your sense of time and space NOW, as if your
ENTIRE WORLD IS THIS PERSON (IN FRONT OF YOU), like you're LOOKING/listening to
your FUTURE as you just continue to LISTEN SO CAREFULLY.
And I think you may not FEEL THAT CONNECTION INSTANTEOUSLY, but even over short
conversation like this one ... a person can find themselves starting to naturally realize that this
person is someone who totally meets their criteria for someone you want to spend time with in
that special way. In a way that makes you feel mmmm you know what I mean.
And you RECOGNIZE WITHOUT EVEN THINKING ABOUT IT that you really are looking
forward to spending more time with this person and the more you allow yourself to feel this the
more you begin to think of other things (point to your dick) that can be so delightful. And you
begin to feel so safe and uninhibited so that you know its OK to just let yourself go and imagine
having your fantasies really come true .. NOW WITH me thats how I sometimes SEE IT THAT
WAY."
Pattern 6
Ross Jeffries:
"Can I ask you a question, I know this may sound funny but, have you ever felt absolutely
comfortable and at ease talking with someone (you just met)? I mean, when . . that's happening,
its like this (powerful, loving) connection is taking place between you and them (sp). And maybe
you were even able to... imagine a time in the future, say years from now, still feeling that sense
of connection and looking back on today as having been the start of it. And you might find you
feel such a strong attraction that you aren't even aware of what you are doing since your mine
doesn't want you to know what your body is doing until afterwards, and you can reflect on how
wonderful and pleasurable the experience is and you are so glad you didn't miss out on anything."
Pattern 7
Ross Jeffries:
"Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone? Like maybe as
you were there, looking at him, and you started to listen carefully, it was like his voice just
seemed to wrap itself around you, to the point where the rest of you environment just
disappeared, and you entire world, everything you saw, became what was right in front of you?
And anything he described, you found that you could just picture it clearly? So you know, if he
were to talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlit beach, with your perfect partner, you could just
see yourself there with him, just enjoying that, that's what it would be like"
Pattern 8
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time?
Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it seemed that you had known them your whole
life, as if there was a timeless connection between you and them?
I'm wondering as you are listen so carefully, if you can remember the feeling of that, and just how
wonderful it was because sometimes life has a way of making us remember those things, right
prior to discovering that we can experience those feelings again with someone.
Me well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No essay or words or can allow that to
happen, but you just begin to recognize now how much you want to be with someone who is so
good for you. Words and appearances are only expressions, the vehicles that contain the essence
that moves us. It can only happen naturally as the expression of an energy between two people,
but when it does, you just know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers melt and
drop away, and two people come together, fused into one spiritual essence, mingling energies,
building and increasing and intensifying, mingling into an expression of aliveness that words can
initiate but never capture fully.
It has to be indulged inside your imagination, dwelled on, and toyed with, deep, deep inside you.
Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of connection, just how much can you
look forward to enjoying that with someone who moves you in that way? As you remember what
that would be like, and find those possibilities opening before you, in such a way that anything
else blurs into insignificance, how powerfully will you feel that urge to be with someone in that
special way and find out more about this person who has so moved you, with just words? As you
might BEGIN TO RECOGNIZE NOW you want to meet with me, realize I can be reached at
[...]."
Pattern 9
Ross Jeffries:
"What's it like when you're so attracted to the sound of a man's voice, that whenever you find
yourself really listening, its like the warmth of that voice just starts to wrap itself around you, and
spreads all through you, maybe to the point where you find yourself thinking about being with
him in a mmmmmmm special way, in a way that would make you both feel mmmmm you know?
You hear their voice in your mind maybe when you're falling asleep you get that feeling on the
inside and you feel warm all over. So much so that as those pictures in your mind get bigger, and
brighter and more intense, and those feelings mm intensify you could just experience an
overwhelming desire, a desire to be with him to the point where you just had to be with him in
that special way (pick up the phone, and invite him over)"
Pattern 10
Remind her of all her feelings she has always wanted to share and what a wonderful experience it
is to find someone to share all those feelings with. Not specifically an IC pattern, but related
nevertheless, as you are creating a feeling in her of being so completely understood.
Ross Jeffries:
"Do you remember when you were a little child and you went to bed expecting tomorrow to be a
rainy stormy day? But you woke up the next morning and to your delight and surprise, you
looked out to see a brightly shining sun, and not a cloud in the sky? And you realized, "Hey...this
day is MINE to make happen?" Imagine sharing those feelings everyday with someone who truly
understands, along with the passions only adults can create and share."
Pattern 11
Incredible connection via greeting card or e-mail. Jonathan Ness, mindlist:
"Isn't it crazy (soften...soften...) how you meet somebody and you just feel an instantaneous
connection... With me, it's like a click right in your stomach when you realize you're going to like
and trust this person for a long time. That's how I felt ("You go first" principle...) when I met you
at [where] [when]. I confess (girls LOVE confessions...), I have been thinking about you, wondering
how much you have been thinking about me, too. (not "whether" but "how much"!). How
surprised would you be to find yourself wishing you could spend some more time with me...
Right now, I can see us over coffee laughing and having the best time. As you think about this
more and more, I'm sure that you can feel a smile coming to your face, realizing how much fun
we're going to have. Let's meet [where] [when] for lunch, around noon, so we can get to know
each other better. Or, if Friday night would work better for you, give me a call at [number] and
we'll arrange the details."
Pattern 12
Notice the tie-in with the Cialdani Reciprocation Principle. Kevin Kupal, mindlist:
"Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection with someone (point to self), a guy who just
makes you FEEL THAT CLICK, right there (click in front of her chest). And when you do, I bet,
that guy can just make you  FEEL SO WARM AND WONDERFUL, DEEP INSIDE YOU...
make you FEEL such a FANTASTIC DELIGHT, an INTENSE, DELICIOUS PLEASURE...
inside YOUR MINE... DEEP INSIDE YOU... just by being with him (point to self), just by
looking at him (she's looking at you, dummy). Now, I WONDER how you WONDER how when
you've found that guy (point to self), and FEEL ALL THE DELIGHT he gives you,  how will
you give back to him some of the delight that he makes you feel... how will you GIVE YOUR
ALL to please and delight him (point to self), even just an inkling of the delight he gives to you?
How good will you feel just by giving him back some of the incredible delight he gives you?
When you feel that the more you please him, the more you exponentially please yourself?"

Feeling Drawn patterns

Pattern I. Ross Jeffries:
"Isn't it interesting how everyone is so different yet in so many ways we are all the same.
I mean for example, I don't know what it is you do, when you decide for yourself that you really
want to be with someone, and you know it's what you want, cause you find yourself imagining it
... you picture it in your mine and you look forward to it for all the right reasons. Reasons that are
right to you because you know its what you want, but I think you know a person can find that
when that's what's taking place, wow, what a difference in the way they think and just how
readily you then begin to make time for this special person you are now connecting so strongly
with.
Its a totally different experience, its like you feel almost magnetically drawn to this person, you
know what I mean? And sometimes I think a person wouldn't even know that that's what's taking
place until afterwards. And you look back on it as one of those amazing memories you treasure/
cherish for the rest of your life ... now ... with me as I think long and hard about it I think that's
the process of discovering that a person is being drawn to another person."
Pattern II. Ross Jeffries:
"You know, how you can have thoughts that cause you to feel fascination. Like, I was thinking
about how, for many people falling in love can sometimes take months. But have you ever
thought about what it would be like for you to fall in love instantaneously where you feel like
you were talking to your soulmate (point).
I mean, imagine there being someone who was selected for you, picked out long before you were
born. I mean if you were to feel that way, now.. I think you may be surprised to find yourself
beginning to almost feel magically enchanted; and you might find yourself wanting to be with
this person in a very special way.
Because, when a person feels they have met their soulmate, like when you imagine this person
being your dream lover (sp), I think you would feel a mysterious yet powerful loving connection
taking place between you and him that when . . that's really happening . . with me in my way of
thinking what is happening is . . you go inside yourself (down into your subconscious) and you
find all those values that are most important to you in a relationship and you think about the
qualities in a personality you want your ideal lover to have (sp), and then find those and link
them up with the person you're talking to (sp), in such a way that a picture of him (frame), for
whatever mysterious reason gets locked permanently in that special place in your mind where
you deeply love and care for someone (sp), to the point where as that picture gets bigger and
brighter and the sounds inside you mmmmm intensify, you might find yourself thinking of other
things, where all your resistance is falling away and you just can't control yourself and you just
want to go wild with it.
Isn't that truly the mystery of falling in love that we all dream of?"
Pattern III. An example of simple attraction pattern combined with a kino approach/close. Best
used after having established rapport, having created states of pleasure and having made her
already interested. Daniel, ASF:
"You know... sometimes... when I meet someone I get this feeling inside (PTS)... I don't know
what it is... but I know it feels good (PTS)... and I can't help but want to get close to that person
and get to know her... (point to her)... do you ever get that feeling when you meet a guy (PTS)?
(Let her say stuff... if its positive move on, if negative do some more rapport building...)
Passion and desire (touch her neck)... the feeling that you cant hold back... you want to touch the
person (PTS or if u feel brave take her hand and make it touch your chest)... the desire builds and
builds (touch her arm)... your mind goes numb because the feeling is so pleasurable... (touch her
arm)... your legs get shaky (touch her hips) and your tummy feels weird (touch her stomach)"
(Note: she should be fucking dripping... and if she ain't you shouldn't have launched these without
establishing anchors and rapport. If she's ok, smile and look in her eyes and DON'T say a
fucking thing for 3 seconds)
Passion and desire.. (touch neck and pull her a little closer)
(KINO TIME, kiss etc. BTW its more effective if you are both sitting down...)"
Pattern IV. Ask the girl what does it feel like to be attracted to somebody - by feeding her with
the answers yourself to make her feel exactly that, while you have already linked those feelings
to "being attracted to someone". Devious:) Daniel J. Mocsny, ASF:
""When you find a man attractive, where do you feel it first? Do you feel butterflies in your
stomach? Does your face start to tingle? Does your throat tighten up a little and make it hard for
you to speak? When you realize that you find a man attractive, how do you behave around him to
let him know you are interested before he has let you know he's interested?"
You can learn a lot from observing how she reacts to these kinds of questions, in addition to
whatever she says. For example, if these questions make her obviously uncomfortable in an
unpleasant kind of way, you should go talk to another woman. On the other hand, if she launches
enthusiastically into a wide-eyed description of how she feels and acts, and she begins fixing her
attention on you and smiling, then you are successfully flirting with her.
If you can get a woman to talk about the process by which she feels attraction and expresses it,
that gives her an opportunity to move her mind into that state."

Meeting the Perfect Man pattern

"You know I think that everyone with a head on their shoulders has got to have some idea of
what they’re looking for in a relationship.
Maybe you’ve met guys in the past where you come home from the date or get off the phone and
you’re saying ‘Well he seems to have a lot of this, but I don’t know if he’s got enough of that’ or
‘Yeah he has a lot of what I look for but there’s just this one thing about him I don’t like’, and
while it might seem natural to evaluate someone like that sometimes, I never do it - at least not
with someone I’m really interested in.
Haven’t you ever met a guy who you were just so attracted to everything about him (confusing
on purpose), you could just feel how he satisfied all of your values, and afterwards you weren’t
picking him apart with all those questions, you were just imagining everything that would happen
the next time you were with him? - A guy where you knew he had something to offer and you
would do whatever to be sure it was offered - to you?
(If Yes, find out what that was like & incorporate it. If no just go on).
You see that’s the kind of person I’m looking for - It’s like, what if you maybe started off meeting
this person and you still had that ruler handy, that one you use in your mine to measure guys,
ready to measure if he had enough of this or that, but then, as you talked to him longer and as the
time passed you were just having so much fun, it’s as if you just started instead to pay attention
to those gut intuitions that just said overwhelmingly ‘You want this guy, you want this guy, you
want him bad!’
And instead of wasting your attention on measuring, you just felt that growing compulsion
building, and now it’s just like all those values you look for just blend together and you see right
then that he had what you really value, and you stop your measuring because this guy’s longer
(sp) than your ruler (sexual innuendo)!
With me, that’s the kind of excitement I look for in a relationship and when the excitement is
there, that’s when you feel absolutely compelled to just go for it now (dickpoint)."

Natural Woman pattern

"Do you think most men know what women really want?"
Of course, she'll just laugh.
"I think most men might THINK they know, but I think almost every man makes one, huge,
critical mistake when it comes to women..."
(Now THAT should get them intrigued.)
"The mistake is that they don't recognize that in each woman their are actually TWO women...
the natural woman and the culturally programmed woman. The culturally programmed woman is
the one with all the rules and all the roles... all the restrictions, constrictions... all the shouldn'ts,
shoulds, don'ts, can'ts, mustn'ts...etc.
But the natural woman....that's the woman right there at the core... where you keep your most
exciting memories... where you ponder fantasies... daydreams... amazing possibilities... the things

you'd do if no one were watching and no one... even your best friends... would ever, ever know
about...
Most men just do things that trigger the culturally programmed woman... But when a man... a
rare man... can touch a woman in that special place in all those special ways you LONG to be
touched... in ways you maybe even can't admit to yourself... then WOW... an almost complete
transformation takes place... and you start blossoming way beyond what you ever even thought
possible.
So I think the smart man is the man who has the realization that that place is there... waiting and
longing... even inspite the fact that women often have to lock all of that away... and yet they are
still there..."

Peak Experience pattern

You: "Can you remember the last time you had a peak experience? Like climbing a mountain...
or watching a beautiful sunset... or the first time you looked at someone (point to yourself, selfpointing,
sp) and recognised YOU REALLY LOVE THIS PERSON (sp)."
Her: "Sure..."
You: "What was that like?"
Here you should shut up and let her describe it. Listen carefully as she will give away lots of
trance words.
You: "That's really interesting. You know, I find it so neat how YOUR MINE can be going along
in one direction, you know in an everyday ordinary state, and then SUDDENLY for whatever
MYSTERIOUS reason, you just GO INTO A MUCH DIFFERENT STATE... a state where
YOUR MINE is so in touch with the MYSTERY and the WONDER and the beauty of life (point
to yourself, dumbshit!). And sometimes it's like in YOUR MINE, you just SLOW TIME DOWN,
and the whole world stops, as you just LET YOURSELF GO WITH THIS (point to yourself).
Can you FEEL THAT (reach out and touch anchor) is an incredible thing to experience… WITH
ME… NOW, I know that for a lot of people different things can trigger that."
Her: "God... yeah... I LOVE the way you talk... it's like your inside my soul."
You: "Well, thank you (whatever-your-name-was). And you know, for a lot of people falling in
love, or an orgasm are peak experiences, but for me, it's music. Like, the other night I was
listening to Mozart, and I don't know if you are familiar with him or not ("Moe who?" - at least
that's what Arnold Schwartzenegger responded with in Last Action Hero:), but some of his stuff
is just a series of short little musical segments... like little pecks on the cheek, and with some of
his stuff those segments just GET LAID (whatever-your-name-was), from end to end, and keep
getting repeated. But his really great stuff is composed of these long, slow, lingering
movements... they're like long, slow, lingering kisses... long slow lingering caresses, and you just
FEEL ALL OF THAT ALL OVER YOUR BODY when you LISTEN... TO ME… NOW... it's an
incredible thing... you know."
Ross Jeffries: "This induces a pretty damn loosened up, altered state and you've already dropped
in a few good sexual metaphors too. What's CRITICAL is you speak slowly, and make sure you
anchor when you are getting the responses. Also...make sure your gestures match what you are
talking about. Don't make short, choppy gestures if you are talking about long, slow, lingering,
movements or you'll be dating your hand! Where could you go from here? Well, pretty much
anywhere. You could transition to gathering info about her values by saying something like,
"So... if you could just imagine your ideal, peak relationship... what are some of the things that
would be important to you to be there?" Or you could move on to the blow job pattern or
incredible connection or whatever."
As for Moe (sorry, Mozart:) - hey, these are just examples, insert something that has deep
personal meaning for you and describe that instead.

Mental Screen pattern

NS (NightShadow): Remember where on your mental screen you saw those images of you and
your old flame?
DB (Defenseless Babe): Yes
NS: Now, on that same screen recall a time you felt the most incrdible sensation that you have
EVER experienced (first orgasm is almost always the response). Picture it and open your eyes
when you feel it the most intensely (this gets her to see your face RIGHT AFTER those feelings.
Ross prefers to have someone wag their finger and you anchor it like that.) Open your mine to
me and allow the sound of my voice to PENETRATE your thoughts.
DB:(opens eyes)
NS: What did you see?
DB: BLAH BLAH BLAH
NS: Awesome, ok, Nude-Erection (new direction, one of my favs). After you felt that great
feeling and opened your eyes and saw me, where you still excited?
DB: well, yeah
NS: Do I make you feel good? Thats ALL MY GOAL IS to do with you is make you feel good
(who can see what I am doing here?). So whenever you need to feel good just imagine MY
WORDS THAT I linked to your feelings and picture those feelings and my face on your mental
screen.