Bullshit fantasies

Girls love to dream. So dream with them:) First - they'll identify with you more strongly ("wow, a
guy that likes to dream as well!"). But more importantly - dream a dream that is to her liking, and
that liking will quickly translate into liking YOU:) Apart from being an application of time
distortion to make her feel like she's known you for a long time, bullshit fantasies is also a
powerful rapport and intense emotions creater, with all of those feelings quite naturally being
linked to you. As they are just fantasies and dreams which are safe to share, the girl's possible
resistance to participating will be almost non-existent, yet the feelings created can become very
real indeed:)
Taken from "Sweep women off their feet...":
"Even girls who are after power and money will screw the living crap out of you if they feel you
are an investment that will bring the results they want. If you show them that you are passionate
about something that has potential to bring success, power and money they won't be able to resist
you even if that success, power and money is currently lacking. They simply look at you as an
investment and they will put out just so that they don't lose out on this great "investment".
If she believes that you both like and want the same things she can still become very attracted to
you if she also believes that you know more than she does about how to get those things that you
both want, even if you don't deliver those things or feelings at the moment. She can become
attracted to you if she believes that you will reach those goals faster than she will. She can
become attracted to you if she believes you can show her how she can get what she wants.
For example, looking back at a scenario involving a girl who loves money and power. Even if
you don't have that money and power, talking about how you will have all of that in the near
future will go a long way. You can describe all the luxuries yet to be enjoyed and how wonderful
it will be. Be as descriptive as you can and try to involve her in the realization of this dream that
WILL COME TRUE. Get her to imagine herself as part of this wonderful life and don't be stingy
on the details. You can even describe how you look forward to sharing this wonderful life with
that "special someone". You can describe how the freedom of your riches will allow you the
opportunities to fulfill so many fantasies, especially the ones about making love on a white sandy
beach, or making love under the waterfalls in the wilderness on a tropical island etc. While you
are talking about all this, use your body to link it all to you. Touch her lightly with a soft caress
on her arm when you describe something soft and sensual. Squeeze her hand firmly when
describing something of intense passion while you maintain eye contact all throughout."

Time distortion

Time distortion is having her think about a time in the future and her feelings for a special somebody
"say six months from now" (see "Falling in Love" pattern). If you've done a good enough
job, that hypothetical special somebody in her imagination will be you! She feels safe and secure
with that as it is only her fantasy, just a thought, and nobody knows about it. Or at least that's
what she thinks:)
But even if she doesn't imagine you as her special somebody, it doesn't matter. The object of time
distortion is to have her imagine you and her six months from now, not even necessarily as
lovers, just have her experience the thought of having known you for six months already. And
before she knows it, she feels much more safe and secure with you, as if she has known you for a
long time already (like... say... six months?:).
ASF: "It's really pretty simple. You just make up some bullshit fantasy that takes place in the
future involving you and her and explain it to her. By the time you #close, it's almost ridiculous
because she FEELS LIKE she has known you for so long already because you have taken her
mentally to the future and in order to understand that she has to IMAGINE KNOWING YOU
FOR MONTHS. She has imagined that you are good friends and like each other and travel
together etc. You should see the looks on their faces when you say "so what's your number?",
they can't believe how close they feel to you and you don't even have their number:)"
Update. Example of a time distortion story (taken from "Sweep women off their feet..."):
"There was this girl I met over the Internet who would only respond once in a while, making me
wait as long as two weeks for a reply if any at all. At one point I decided to put a stop to it. I
wrote her the following little story:
"I know that right now it's hard for anyone to recognize when they meet the person they want to
share their lives with, especially with the overload of information and male congestion on the
Internet. But sometimes I think that Mother Nature provides food for every little bird in this
world but that doesn't mean it will drop it in its nest. People are the same way. There is someone
out there for every one of us, but we still have to go out there and find him or her.
With that in mind I cannot help but look into the future and see a young woman asking her
grandmother for advice in the matters of the heart. You look at your grand daughter with love in
your eyes, speaking in a kind voice, recalling moments from your youth when you weren't sure
whether your heart was melting for the right man. Then you smile and tell her to trust her heart
even if her mind says no, because there was a time when a young man was desperately trying to
get your attention but for some reason he could not find his way into your heart. Just before you
decided to put an end to his misery he wrote one compelling letter straight from his heart and
that's when you knew he was the man who deserved your love. Your mind was still not
convinced but you decided to let things happen at least for the sake of finding out for sure.
Though it wasn't immediate, your heart and mind surrendered to the power of love. Had I given
up at first we wouldn't be here talking about matters of the heart my dear girl, for that young man
was none other but your grand daddy."
That one email alone made her not want to miss out on such a perfect future."

Quoting and stacking realities

Quoting has you say things through someone's else mouth - has you quoting somebody. This has
the advantage of making the more timid or insecure girls feel more at ease with the content you
are about to deliver and thus much more receptive to your suggestive talk, as you are not talking
about her neither yourself but a "friend" of yours (this is also a good tactic to use when delivering
a harsher than usual content (see the articles about "Sexual talk"). In order to understand what
you are saying, she will have to apply everything you say to herself anyway, so don't worry about
her not experiencing what your "friend" experienced:)
On the other hand, using quotes might be a slight hindrance to your success with more openminded
and adventurous girls, who wouldn't mind you describing them your or their feelings,
because should a direct speech be accepted, it is always much more powerful than speaking
through quotes. With such a girl describe her feelings and she goes "Goosh, this guy really
understands my feelings!", or describe your feelings and she goes "Goosh, this guy has such deep
feelings!". She'll be wet either way:)
As you shall see in the "Falling in Love" pattern, you can also quote an article, a lecturer, a TVshow,
a book etc. All these quotes added up is called stacking realities - the way she will perceive
it is that if the book says so, the article says so, the lecturer says so, his friend says so etc., then it
must be true.
The reasoning behind quoting is to give the more shy and emotionally fearful girls more distance
to feel more at ease with any given subject - to not have either her or you overtly involved in
your descriptions (don't worry, her and you will be involved in those descriptions in her mind:).
Another way of making her more at ease with any given subject is to use the hypothetical "If you
were to...", "If I were to..." constructions, which now have the two of you overtly involved in
whatever you choose to talk about, but only in a hypothetical way.
For example, use a "If I were to ask you…" in front of a "…what's the most important thing for
you in a relationship…", the implication being that you're not really asking, finish that with a
"…how would you describe it?" and you end up with a much more effective question of "If I
were to ask you what's the most important thing for you in a relationship, how would you
describe in?" than a blatant "what's the most important thing for you in a relationship?" on its
own could ever be.
See also:
Talking about sex
Using sexual stories to get her horny
Update. Examples of quoting to use sex-talk. Ross Jeffries:
"I found this letter on the lawn that my neighbor's daughter wrote. She is only 14 . . and I read,
"You really shouldn't think about going down on a guy as you talk to him (on the phone) and you
shouldn't think about making love to a man passionately (who you hardly know: who you are
casual friends with.)"."
"Some men are so crude. I can't believe what I saw this dude do the other night. He walked up to
this girl sitting at the bar next to me and said to her "Imagine us totally making out and you
getting so incredibly turned on by it. If you were to feel that right now, try not to think about
having me eat your pussy all night long and getting really horny." I can't believe a guy would ask
a women to think about that all night long."
"You know, I have heard of guys being really crude towards women but you wouldn't believe
what I saw last night. Well, I was sitting at this bar minding my own business when I saw this
stranger walk up to this girl who was sitting next to me, look her right in the eye, and say " If I
were to say to you that I'd like to eat your pussy all night long, would you get hot and horny or
would you slap me and run away." Can you believe it! Did he really expect her to feel an
incredibly lust inside, and enjoy imaging being made loved to all night long."
"My neighbor Cheryl acted so weird to me the other day. Do you know what she asked me? . . .
She goes "John, Imagine you and me totally making out." And I'm like, "Cheryl, your 10 years
older than me. And she says "wait, see this through your own eyes. Imagine you and me really
enjoying ourselves passionately making out" I said, "No Cheryl, this isn't going to work out. And
she says, "NO NO NO, just imagine it for a moment, just imagine us making out and you getting
so turned on." Did she really expect me enjoy thinking about that over and over again, to the
point where you can't get it out of your mind. If she does that again, next time I think I'll play it
right back to her. Like say something like "Tell me Cheryl, What's it feel like when you
experience fantastic sex when you're with someone who, you know mmmmm really knows how."
"You know I think it's so strange how people come up with things right out of the blue. My
neighbor looks at me and says STOP and just . . . picture the . . . two of us . . . absolutely in love.
Able to feel . . . totally connected, completely drawn to each other. What would it feel like then if
I was kissing you exactly the way you like it, touching you exactly the way you like it, holding
my body close to yours. God, did she really expect me to have those thoughts _____ Now with
me, I know it takes time. I would never feel that right away. Its the kind of thing you go home
and think about. You just picture it right up there in your mind find yourself dreaming those
wonderful dreams of love with this special person you are now connecting so powerfully with.
But you can't think about it on the spot as well."
"You know, sometimes I think women are so strange. I can't believe you all. Well, the other day, I
was talking with my friend ____ and she looked at me and she said, "If you were to imagine we
were in love, what are the two of three things about me that you could say that just cause you to
fall in love with me the most." Now I can't believe, that's not the kind of thing you ask someone
to think about on the spot. It's the kind of thing you might find yourself pondering. You know,
maybe when you're doing everyday things like driving your car or taking a shower and you find
that you think about it to the point where you can't get it out of your mind. I know its a wonderful
thing to feel a growing desire for someone (sp) to the point where you imagine yourself with
them in a mmmmm special way. But really, people shouldn't do that."
"You know I ask women what they think is the worst pickup line they have ever heard. Well, this
woman told me what happened to her once .. this guy walked up to her in a bar, looked her right
in the eye and said "imagine me going down on you just the way you like it all night long and
you were getting so hot and so wet that you were begging to have me inside you". Did that jerk
really expect her to have those thoughts ... with me I would never say such a thing."

Anchoring explained

A more advanced aspect of patterning is anchoring. Anchoring is an application of Pavlov's
reflex in NLP (and also in Speed Seduction). A Pavlov's reflex is a conditioned reflex first
explored and introduced by Russian scientist Pavlov. The core of his experiment was as follows -
he rang a bell, gave a dog some food, the dog saw and smelled the food and started salivating.
After a few times of repeating the process of ringing a bell, offering food and getting the dog to
salivate, he eliminated the offering of food from the process. He just rang the bell and… the dog
started salivating. By always ringing a bell while offering food, he had created a conditioned
reflex in the test subject, which in this case was causing salivation by simply ringing the bell.
The same conditioned reflex can be created in a girl - this is called anchoring. In patterning this
means, that every time you see the girl light up with delight, smile, laugh or just feel damn good
because of the wonderful feelings you are creating in her with your patterns, you touch her in a
specific place (the shoulder, elbow, inside of her arm) thus planting an anchor (the ringing of the
bell while offering food:), while saying something "it's a great feeling, isn't it?" to mask your
touch.
Let's say you've touched her elbow each time you've made her feel especially good three times
already. If you now touch that very same spot on her elbow the same way you touched it on three
previous occasions (applying the same amount of pressure etc.), she suddenly and unexpectedly
has all those wonderful feelings, that were there when you planted the anchor, rush back to her
without you having done anything else but touch her elbow (in other words: you just rang the bell
without offering food, and she started to salivate:). If you're really good, you can plant different
anchors for different feelings all over her body - an anchor of laughter on her shoulder, an anchor
of excitement on her elbow, an anchor of feeling romantic on back of her hand and an anchor of
feeling horny… on her knee:).
Furthermore, anchoring is not confined to touching alone - you can also use the tone of your
voice, some specific words (whisper "oh yes do it!" in her ear a few times when she orgasms,
then whisper those same words in her ear when being on some fancy reception and watch her
turn red from a wave of passionate heat and lust. You don't even have to hide anything, she can
recognise those words as "familiar" but she still can't help herself:).
It is however important not to overuse the anchors you have planted or she will eventually
become insensitive to them. Ring a bell ten times without offering food and the dog will
eventually stop salivating when hearing the bell ring.
The most practical use of anchoring is probably being able the keep a girl on a constant high
when she's with you. Evoke positive feelings, and whilst she's experiencing them, anchor those
feelings. But even the best PUA-s cannot keep evoking good feelings in a girl on a continuous
basis, sooner or later, for whatever reason (she might be tired, have some worries, whatever), her
mood will drop. That's where the feelings you have anchored come handy. Fire off an anchor (if
you anchored laughter and fun to her shoulder, touch her shoulder) and she's happy again:) With
no excess effort on your part:)

ADDITIONAL PATTERNING SKILLS- Trance words explained

When you are eliciting her values or letting her describe her feelings while patterning, listen
intently to what she has to say and more importantly, what words she uses to express herself.
The words she puts particular emphasis on or repeats frequently are her so-called trance words.
This means that by using the very same words she uses you will be able to tap directly into her
consciousness and subconscious. After all, those are the words she thinks with and is most
familiar with. And hearing you use them, she feels you understand her so completely, you are like
a soul-mate, and whatever you say to her is much more likely to be understood and most
importantly - liked by her:)
A rough implementation of using trance words would be to take what she tells you and feed it
back to her in a slightly different robing using her personal trance words. But when I say rough, I
don't mean that its not working - the fact that it just doesn't have much style, doesn't mean that it
isn't deadly effective:)
A more sophisticated approach would be to listen to and remember her trance words. And use
them a little later:) And maybe in a slightly different context:) But the difference between this
and the first method is only subtle - here you just have to use a little more imagination and have a
good memory:)
An example:
You: "If I were to ask you, what's the most important thing in a relationship, how would you
describe it to me?"
Her: "I want a man who makes me feel comfortable with myself" (you remember "feel" and "
comfortable")
You: "Wouldn't it be nice if you could spend time with a man who makes you feel like you could
let down your guard and just be comfortable? Whose voice soothed and at the same time
stimulated you? I get the feeling that this could happen to you right now, with me."

Delivering patterns - tonality

The way you deliver the patterns determines the difference between making her feel wonderful
deep inside or you sounding like a phoney or a pathetic clown reciting some weird-sounding
monologue or script.
Presenting her with the text accomplishes you nothing, the words itself will not make her feel
anything. You have to be the text you deliver, you have to feel it with her, be with her every step
of the way… until the final eruption:) (Yes, women have been reported to have orgasms simply
by listening to patterns being delivered the right way:). So memorising the patterns presented in
this guide does nothing for you, unless you really live out and not simply recite every word to
her.
The patterns that you can find on www.seduction.com or in this guide are mere examples of what
pattern-talk is like, they are not spells that make magic things happen just because they are
mumbled out loud. You can certainly start by memorising some patterns, but you will start
having real success only when you'll be able to make up a pattern on the fly about anything, that
is exciting and close to heart for that one specific girl you are talking to. It helps if you have a
soft, low, mesmerising and a slightly hypnotic voice, and if you don't… try to modulate your
voice to become as such while delivering your patterns:)
(ASF:) "Using a low, seductive voice may seem unnatural at first, but you must practice. Try tape
recording your own voice so you get an idea of how you sound in general. Then tape yourself
reciting a scripted pattern. You'll hear how stilted and unnatural it sounds. Now tape yourself
while improvising that same pattern, but this time work on making how you say the words sound
soothing and, well, seductive. Don't worry about screwing up the word order, just concentrate on
HOW YOU SAY IT. Also - pause mid-sentence to create a sense of anticipation and mystery."
Update. Adapted from Ross Jeffries' public seminar tanscript no 1:
Ross: Some of you, your tonality, up until tonight sucked. It just sucks. You need to practice.
You've got to make a commitment to practice these skills. How many people here walk? How
many people here talk? How many people here can stand up? How many people here are toilet
trained? Keep your hand down, Bruce. Just teasing, ok. Do you think those are all things that you
acquired immediately? Did you pop out of the womb being able to do it? You had to practice.
You must practice these skills on a consistent basis. I don't know why I have to continue to
hammer on this point before you get it and incorporate it. So let's work on controlling tonality,
let's put your notes down. I dont want to see anyone writing or holding notes, anyone with a pen
in their hand will find their gentile is shrinking. And some of you have no time to waste. How
many of you know what the vowels are? What are the vowels?
Audience: A,E,I,O,U
Ross: Wrong, here are the vowels. AAAA, EEEE, IIII, OOOO, UUUU. Those are the vowels. So
we're going to do an exercise. Put one hand on your chest so you can feel the residence of your
voice, take a deep breath, put your head back and say with me. AAAA, EEEE, IIII, OOOO,
UUUU. Welcome to the five hour orgasm. Ok. When you speak to a woman, you should be
speaking such that your voice resinates. When you practice these patterns out loud, and you must
practice every pattern OUT LOUD. Not in your head. Out loud, because you're speaking these
out loud. So, we must learn to control our tonality. Ok, let's try another exercise. Let's pick a
neutral word like watermelon. Ok. Let's all just say watermelon.
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: Try it one more time
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: Ok, now. I want you to remember a time when you were angry, really pissed off and say
watermelon as if you were expressing that angry feeling. Ready?
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: Again
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: Alright, can you remember a time when you were curious? I want you to say watermelon
with a tonality of curiousity. Ready?
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: Watermelon, and now seductive and sexy. Say watermelon. Let's start with this row, ok
guys. Let's hear you do your watermelon seductive and sexy, are you ready?
Audience: Watermelon
Audience: Laughs
Ross: Do you see what I mean? Look, ok, let's hear you say the words, seduce me, let's hear you
say seduce me.
Audience: Seduce me
Ross: Louder, put your hand on your chest, get the resident, no these guys only, put your head
back, take a deep breath and go, seduce me, make it resinate. Say it out loud.
Audience: Seduce me
Ross: Better, a little louder. This is not observant. Do it. Seduce me, better, ok, now do
watermelon.
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: Suck it in like this and go watermelon.
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: He's got it. Nicky, come on in and have a seat. Ok, do you guys want to try it? Let's hear it.
Let's hear the sexiest watermelon in the world. Are we ready?
Audience and Ross: Watermelon
Ross: That's good. He's got it, go ahead, one more time.
Audience: Watermelon
Ross: Very good. Ok, all together, ready. 1, 2, 3,
Audience and Ross: Watermelon
Ross: If you guys need extra help on doing this you have my permission to call two 900 numbers.
I'm serious. Take them and listen to how these women speak. Ok, if necessary, call a gay 900
number.
Audience: Laughs
Ross: I'm serious, I'm serious and listen to how they speak. Here's a good way to make sure you
say it right, get the feeling for yourself right here. And then as you're speaking to the woman, the
feeling that you want her to feel will guide your tonality. Do you get that? So imagine the feeling
that you want to feel right here and then allow that feeling to guide your voice. So as the warmth
of that voice just wraps itself around you like a pair of legs around your neck, you'll know, really
know, on the inside, just exactly what's happening, you know. You must learn to control your
tonality. I can't emphasize this enough. It is the single biggest stumbling block. Some other ways
to learn to control your tonality. Get a dictionary. Pick out words at random and experiment
saying those words with the right tonality. Pick out loaded words like troop, love, seduction,
connection. Write these words down. Troop, love, seduction, connection, desire, lust, absolutely
fascinated. Ok. And work on saying these in the right tonality. I just cannot emphasize this
enough. Trying to learn this without getting master of your tonalities is like trying to drive your
car without gasoline. It's just not going to work.

Delivering patterns - general rules

Being vague. It is important to be as vague as possible in your patterns. For one thing, vagueness
for a woman doesn't sound incoherent or obscure like it does to the rational and matter-of-fact
mind of a man. For a girl, vague equals romantic, thrilling, mysterious and intriguing. For
another thing, being vague in your patterns lets her more easily link the feelings you describe
with her own experiences or dreams. The more vague, the better!
Doesn't patterning sound unnatural? (Ross Jeffries:) "When you learn how to do Speed
Seduction according to that, it ceases to be about mind-fucking and ramming memorised patterns
into a (hopefully:) co-operative subject, and becomes a mutual exploration of how you think and
how she thinks about certain topics, that naturally would lend themselves to pattern type talk
even if you didn't know a thing about Speed Seduction! Using the pattern language, therefore, in
this context is utterly natural, incredibly powerful, and allows you to actually learn something
about the woman on a very deep level while you are creating incredible connections, sexual
feelings, etc. etc."
Once more, the patterns here are only examples. Ross Jeffries: "The patterns are examples,
NOT rules. Many students think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for word,
that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100% FALSE! The patterns are only
examples... very GOOD examples... of the kinds of communication that turn women on. But they
aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll
be able to eventually create your own patterns."
The Stages of Learning Patterns as stated by Ross Jeffries:
"I would say students go through three stages of Speed Seduction Mastery.
• Stage One: memorising and using memorised patterns, word for word.
• Stage Two: learning to use themes that incorporate pieces of the pattern language.
• Stage Three: learning to use themes that have deep personal meaning for the student as well as
being intriguing to women and allowing the student to use pieces of the pattern language."
Can I talk freely or will she interrupt me? Ross Jeffries: "There are two classes of women who
respond to patterns; those who want to be overwhelmed, and those who want it to be their own
experience. The women in the first category will just sit and let you run patterns without
interrupting; the second category will interrupt by talking. That's ok...let them talk... because they
will give you their personal trance words which you use back with them when you continue with
the patterns! Girls in the second category are actually more entertaining and fun!"
The time delay. Ross Jeffries: "Some women, for whatever reason, have a "time delay" effect;
the patterns might not appear to work, but an hour or 3 days or even 3 months later, out of the
blue they want to bang you. This "time delay" can be an x-factor that can make responses seem a
bit more unpredictable."
Update. (Taken from "Sweep women off their feet...":) "If she's still not responsive maybe she's
never experienced such feelings in the past and is having a hard time keeping up. Slow down and
talk as though you are trying to understand as well from the experience of your friend. It will be
easier for her to imagine all the feelings you are describing if there is no pressure for her to
readily understand them. Give her the time she needs to absorb everything. And sometimes it
takes a while before she'll absorb everything. Believe me, that does happen.
For example, there was this girl I thought was unresponsive, yet a few days after we had a deep
conversation about love and feelings she came up to me and acted as though she was truly in
love, picking up that same conversation after I almost forgot what we were talking about in the
first place."
Combine feelings with body sensations. Ross Jeffries: "As far as possible, layer in body
sensations along with your connection patterns! When you combine body sensations along with
emotional connections, either at the same time or rapidly in sequence, the effect is practically
irresistible and the power isn't additive...it's exponential!"
Fear?? No. FUN!! Ross Jeffries: "If you want to be hilariously successful with Speed Seduction,
then you must realise that the patterns aren't about begging. They aren't even really about tricking
or misleading. No, sir, the patterns are about being able to create such incredible states of
pleasure and fun and highs for her that no one else can, such that she really WANTS to give you
her sexual goodies. They're about creating states for her that no one else can. Viewed like this,
that incredible babe you want to bang isn't someone you need to fear. She's someone who's about
to receive an incredible gift from you, a gift she might continue to receive IF she's smart enough
and hot enough and sexy enough to give you what it takes to keep YOU coming back for more.
You see, it sure makes a damn big difference when you can look at a honey-pie and honestly
think to yourself, "How good can this woman stand to feel? Let's go have fun and find out!"
Speaking of fun, another big part of being in the right frame of mind to make SS work is refusing
to take it seriously. By that, I mean you take the attitude that you are experimenting, having fun,
and if what you try doesn't work, you've simply polished your skills and learned something new."
For more specifics about patterns (using visual, auditory or kinaesthetic language for girls with
visual, auditory or kinaesthetic imaginations accordingly; running at least three different patterns
in a row for maximum effectiveness etc.) turn to www.seduction.com and see the newsletters.
Update. Adapted from Ross Jeffries' public seminar tanscript.
The right attitude. Ross Jeffries: "You see, challenge is where the fun is. If it's not easy, life is
not meant to be easy, but life was meant to be fun. If you're not going to have fun in the process,
then what's the point. And also this is a very sexy attitude. A guy who is not put off but is also
not hungry, and is having fun in the process of courtship, a woman is attracted to that. A man
who'll playfully court her without being pushy, a man who is persistent, but at the same time is
not pushy or needy but is playful about it. [The attitude is:] "Eventually you're going to come
around and see what a great deal it is and in the mean time I'll play and have fun with you".
That's very sexy. You know, I'm telling you something, you can look like a freaking pig and many
of my students do and still it doesn't make any difference because it's a very rare attitude. It's a
very rare approach. You become one man in a million."
See and observe her response. Ross Jeffries: "Ok, we'll talk about the skills. Let's talk about the
skills you need to make this work. The first skill you need is the ability to observe and to see
what response you are getting. Shall I repeat that? The ability to observe and see what response
that you're getting. In order to do that, you have to be doing what? Louder, I can't hear you. To do
that you can't be in your head worrying is this working, oh, oh, does she like me, what if I blow
it, you have to turn all that crap off. Flip that switch to off, pull the plug on that. You have to be
totally focused on what response you're getting. Step out of your own way and turn all that crap
off and just focus in on the response you're getting."
Be flexible yet persistent. Ross Jeffries: "Ok. Skill No. 2. The flexibility to change to something
else if you aren't getting the response you want. If you try "have you ever", let's take that one.
"Have you ever felt the sense of incredible connection…?", yet then you get "no". Instead of
giving up you can go "Well have you ever felt really attracted to someone…?". Keep going until
you get that response. Do you understand. Keep going until you get the response because
eventually you will. Or step back and shift to something else. Does this make sense? I know, stop
a minute, close your eyes. Everyone has some, when I say close your eyes, I want the lids down.
Anyone who's lids do not close will find their sexual future shrinking away, rapidly, rapidly.
Some of us don't have long to wait. I want you to think of some situation where you have alot of
flexibility where something gets thrown in your path, you shift around and you keep going. I
don't care what context it is. And as you think of that thing I want you to raise your hand in the
air, raise your hand in the air, do it and make a fist, raise your arm all the way up in the air, make
a fist and as you bring that hand down I want you to increase that feeling of utter flexibility and
ferociousness that you go for what you want and keep going. And do it again. Think of that thing
again, raise your hand in the air and as you do that, think to yourself, yes, don't say it but think to
yourself. And remember that feeling of being flexible and you go to the next thing. Ok, one more
time. And this time in your mind's eye, I want you to see some woman that you would really like
to seduce and see her not responding the way you'd like to. As you put your hand down, notice
how you can increase that feeling, hey, I'm going to try something else and keep going. Nothing
is going to stop me. Do you get that? Alright. Open your eyes and look at me."
Be patient and learn from trial and error. Ross Jeffries: "Ability No 3 is the ability to be
patient and learn from trial and error. I know you all admire me and you're not worthy and all that
other shit but guess what. I make mistakes with this. But I don't want to think of making mistakes,
I am learning. I occasionally do things, guess what, they don't work the way I've planned.
Guess what? I get excited. Kent and Mark here had lunch with me and the first thing I asked
them was what have you done that doesn't work? Tell me about what you've done where it didn't
work. Did I not say that? Because that's where I get excited. That tells me I'm about to step into a
new level of power. If something isn't working, congratulate yourself because you're about to find
out what does work. You're about to learn something new. Without that mind set, you will be at
best mediocre with this material. With this mind set no matter what blocks you may start out
with, you will leave them behind quickly and go wherever you want to with the material. But if
nothing else, if all you do is really begin to live the attitude that there are no failures, there's only
learnings, you will be ahead 99% of the people in society."
Be able to move from one pattern to the next. Ross Jeffries: "Ability No. 4. Ability to move
from one pattern to the next. I will go over some transitional phrases that will allow you to move
from any pattern to any other pattern. Even if, it makes it logically seem, it's nothing more fun to
me than making it seem like my ideas are logically connected when there's no logical connection
at all. I'm just connecting them so I can ram patterns in. Ok. And there's certain phrases "now
here's another thing". Or "here's something else that is interesting". It doesn't have to be any
logical connection to be any ideas at all."