Girls love to meet their prince charming casually, they dream of meeting you accidentally and by
chance. That usually includes meeting you at a somewhat more private party (a birthday or a
wedding, but not a nightclub), being introduced to you through a mutual friend, having common
interests (hobbies, sports etc) and meeting you through events organized for people practicing
these interests; school, work, hobbies, friends, and relatives being the common denominators
here.
That is also why trying to pick up a girl in the street or on the commuter is so much harder to do
than just "meeting her casually" - it is completely different from what she has been dreaming of
and in addition to having to make her like you the way you present yourself, you'll have to
compensate for not being able to have the silent recommendation of having mutual friends or
hobbies plus dismiss any of her doubts of you "doing this (picking up girls) all the time", a
thought which might weigh against you even if she actually likes you and your approach.
But whether you want to make the girl like you having met her casually or doing a more direct
pick-up, you'll be using the same techniques nevertheless. Opting for a casual meeting just
simplifies your task of getting her to like you and has a higher probability of her coming to
expect a LTR once things get serious (whether you like or want that to happen is already a different
subject), whereas pick-ups are tougher to pull off successfully, but they also broaden your
choice of girls far beyond those that you happen to meet "casually" plus each failure and succcess
will build your experience and confidence respectively far more than casual meetings could ever
do.
In short, casual meetings are safe, pick-ups more rewarding, and the choice is yours, but a
healthy mixture of both is probably the best way to go:)
chance. That usually includes meeting you at a somewhat more private party (a birthday or a
wedding, but not a nightclub), being introduced to you through a mutual friend, having common
interests (hobbies, sports etc) and meeting you through events organized for people practicing
these interests; school, work, hobbies, friends, and relatives being the common denominators
here.
That is also why trying to pick up a girl in the street or on the commuter is so much harder to do
than just "meeting her casually" - it is completely different from what she has been dreaming of
and in addition to having to make her like you the way you present yourself, you'll have to
compensate for not being able to have the silent recommendation of having mutual friends or
hobbies plus dismiss any of her doubts of you "doing this (picking up girls) all the time", a
thought which might weigh against you even if she actually likes you and your approach.
But whether you want to make the girl like you having met her casually or doing a more direct
pick-up, you'll be using the same techniques nevertheless. Opting for a casual meeting just
simplifies your task of getting her to like you and has a higher probability of her coming to
expect a LTR once things get serious (whether you like or want that to happen is already a different
subject), whereas pick-ups are tougher to pull off successfully, but they also broaden your
choice of girls far beyond those that you happen to meet "casually" plus each failure and succcess
will build your experience and confidence respectively far more than casual meetings could ever
do.
In short, casual meetings are safe, pick-ups more rewarding, and the choice is yours, but a
healthy mixture of both is probably the best way to go:)
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