Nine Nonverbal Cues That Say, “I’m Likable”

I’ve already listed non-verbals that convey dominance. There’s some
overlap—lots of those signals, such as sustained eye gazing while you speak,
that convey dominance also make you more likable. However, sometimes
dominance signals (such as leaning back) can make you more distant.
So where appropriate, you may need to balance your dominance with
likeability. (Too much dominance makes you unlikable.) Be conscious of the
following silent techniques that magnetically get a girl to you:
1) Lean forward when you’re sitting across from someone who
is telling you something. This communicates interest in what
they are saying. However, it’s crucial to make sure that the
woman is highly interested in you before doing this, since
leaning back is a way for you to non-verbally play “hard to
get.” Once she’s interested in you, lean forward to give the
impression that you’re easy to talk to.
2) Directly orient your body and face towards her. Note
that you should have dominance established before doing
this, since you lose dominance by being more direct with
your body language.
3) Smile.
4) Have a relaxed and spread-out posture.

5) Dress similarly to your group, but just a little bit cooler than
everybody else. If you meet the dress expectations of the
people you interact with, you will be better liked.
6) Wear lighter-colored and more informal clothing.
(However, such clothing also detracts from your perceived
dominance.)
7) Maintain mutual eye contact—go ahead and gaze into
her eyes and she will like you. Don't do it more than 70% of
the time though, as stated previously.
8) Make sure your speaking voice is pleasant, expressive,
relaxed, and that you sound animated and interested in
what is being talked about.
9) Avoid unpleasant facial expressions, an absence of
gestures, looking elsewhere, closed body language, and an
uncomfortable-looking posture.
Again, make sure to strike a balance between dominance and likeability.
If you never smile, then the woman won’t like you. But if you smile excessively, it
makes you seem like you have low social status—you’re trying too hard.
Some things such as a relaxed, spread-out posture help you with
dominance and likeability, so you should be spread out and relaxed all the time.